Aia kekahiʻano manaʻo e moe nā wāhine a me nā wāhine i ka maleʻana, a piʻi mai lākou me nāʻano a pau e alakaʻi i kahi mea maikaʻi. Malia, aʻoiaʻiʻo, makemake lākou, i hoʻokahi manawa ma nā makasina wahine e hiki iāʻoe keʻimi i nāʻatikala no ka hoʻololi "Pehea e mare ai?". Hiki iāʻoe ke noʻonoʻo i ka paʻiʻana o ka kāne kāne i ka mea i kapaʻia "Pehea e hōʻoia ai i kahi kaikamahine e mare iāʻoe?". ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu. Maximum like like "How nice to make a proposal?". A laila he mea like me "Pehea e hana ai i nā mea a pau āu e makemake ai, me kaʻole o ka maleʻana".
Eia naʻe, i kēia manawa, i ka wā i nīnau mai ai ka pilikua iaʻu: "A he aha kāu, e nā kaikamāhine o kēia wā, mai wikiwiki e mare?" -'Āʻono wau. Aʻo kaʻoiaʻiʻo a me kaʻoiaʻiʻo, i waena o koʻu mau hoaaloha ke kaumaha o nā kaikamāhine mai 20 a 30 iʻole e wikiwiki e male. A iʻole paha,ʻaʻole paha e hana ana i kēia manawa? Pēlāʻiʻo nō paha ka moeʻana o nā wahine a pau no ka mareʻana, a he meaʻike wale paha ia?
Ma hope o ka noiʻana aku i nā kaikamāhine oʻu,ʻaʻole au i lohe i kekahi'āpana'ōlelo "ʻae",ʻaʻole hoʻokahi'ōleloʻoiaʻiʻo "no". ʻO keʻano o kēia mau pane: "Keʻimi nei i ka mea", "Ke makemake wau e hānau i ka pēpē", "i ka wā e kāhea ai lākou, a laila, e noʻonoʻo wau i koʻu makemake aʻaʻole paha."
ʻO ka maleʻana, ma keʻano he kaulike,ʻaʻole i hopena iā ia iho. ʻO kēia kahiʻoi aku e loaʻa ai nā pahuhopu likeʻole. Ināʻaʻole, he mau paneʻelua wale nō "makemake wau i ka mareʻana , no ka mea he nani" a "ʻae, ua hala ka manawa." ʻOiai i loko o kēia mau hihia, ua hiki ke hōʻoiaʻia no kēia mareʻana no ka pono o ka maleʻana.
No ke aha i mare ai nā wāhine?
No laila he aha nā pahu hopu i hopuʻia e nā kaikamāhine ke mare lākou?
ʻO ka mea mua,ʻaʻohe mea e makemake e hānai i kahi keiki i kahi noho kaʻawale, a ma ia hope aku paha makemake kahi keiki i nā mea a pau. He hopohopo paepae kēia no ka wā e hiki mai ana a me ka makemake e hilinaʻi i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
No kekahi mau kaikamahine'ōpiopio,ʻo ke keiki wale nō ke kumu e male ai, a me ka loaʻa ole o nā keiki,ʻaʻole lākou e pono ke mare. I ke kumu o ka hoʻomauʻana o ka genus,ʻelua mau koho. Hiki iāʻoe ke mare no kou manaʻo ua makaukauʻoe i ka hānau keiki a heʻohana, a hiki iāʻoe ke mare no ka mea ua hāpaiʻoe. ʻOiai,ʻaʻole i'ōleloʻia kahi kaikamahine e makemakeʻo ia e mare no ka mea ua hāpaiʻo ia, akā, mai poinaʻole i kēlā kumu.
ʻO ka lua o ka kumu -ʻo ka manaʻo o ka mare e hiki ai iāʻoe ke nakinaki i ke kāne. ʻOiai,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e paʻa i nā kaulahao, akā,ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī o ka hui me kāna wahine ma mua o ke kaikamahine.
"Hoa? Ke nānā nei au i kahi, inā no A., hiki iaʻu ke hoʻopaʻa iā ia, e pilikia ana iaʻu i ka hemo, no ka mea, he mea nui loa e kaʻana. A ke makemake nei wau e mālama, no ka mea, heʻano koʻikoʻi a aloha wau ma kekahiʻano, a ma muli o ka hoʻopauʻana o ka maleʻana i ka pilina a me ka manawa,ʻo wauʻo Capricorn, ke hoʻohana nei wau i nā pahuhopu a pau,ʻaʻole wau e hoʻomaha a hiki i ka loaʻaʻana o kahi hōʻailona ma kaʻu passport. " kekahi o koʻu mau hoaaloha.
ʻOiai,ʻaʻole hiki i kēlā me kēia kanaka ke hoʻopaʻa i nā makahiki i hoʻolimalimaʻia a me kāna waiwai (e hoʻomanaʻo i ka hoʻokuʻuʻana iā Abramovich), akā, he ikaika loa kēia. ʻAʻole ia he meaʻole i'ōlelo muaʻia kekahi'ōlelo: "ʻAʻohe mea e hoʻoikaika i ka mare ma keʻano he moraki pili."
"Makemake wau e loaʻa iā ia nā kuleana mana ma luna ona!" - wahi a Julia, 23 makahiki. "Ua nele i ka hoʻohuiʻana i nā hana a ka wahine a me nā kuleana o ka haku wahine," wahi a Olya, 25 makahiki. ʻAe,ʻo nā kuleana o kāna wahineʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ke haku wahine. A i loko o ka mareʻana ma waena o ka poʻe e pane ana i nā kuleana e pili ana i ka pō o ka pō, hiki iāʻoe ke lohe: "He aha kāu e hoʻomalu nei iaʻu,ʻoʻoe kaʻu wahine a me kekahi mea?"
I pinepine ka makemake e noi i ke kālā mai kāna kāne mai. ʻO nā mea a pau āu e'ōlelo ai, aʻo ka mare i kekahi kanaka waiwai nui,ʻo ia kekahi o nā pahuhopu o kahi nui o nā kaikamahine. I kekahi manawa, hoʻolaleʻale kekahi iā ia ma ka hana a kāna kāne, aʻo ka mea wale nō e makemake e pili i kona'ā'ī a ola ma kahi kālā a kekahi.
No ka hoʻoholoʻana ma o ka hoʻopiliʻana i nā mea a me nā pilikia o ka hale -ʻaʻohe mea hou a hana maʻamau. Makemake kekahi e makemake i ke kanaka waiwai, makemake kekahi, no ka hoʻokeleʻana iʻAmelika. ʻAʻole ia he wahine wale nō, akā, i kānaka. Eia naʻe,ʻaʻole pono paha e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka makemake e mare, akā no nā kumu'ē aʻe.
Akā, eia kāu mea e noʻonoʻo ai. ʻAʻohe kaikamahine i'ōlelo eʻimi nei i ke aloha i ka male. ʻAʻole wau e loiloi i ka maikaʻi a me ka hewa paha. ʻO ka pilikino piliʻole i ke aloha, ma kekahiʻaoʻao, he mea maʻamau ia, no ka mea, i mea e aloha ai a alohaʻia,ʻaʻole pono e mare. I kekahiʻaoʻao'ē aʻe, ua loli maoli kekahi mea i loko o ko kākou kaiaulu. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, inā e noi mākou i ko mākou mau makuahine a me nā kupunawahine i ke kumu o ko lākou mareʻana, e pane mai ka hapanui o lākou: "No ke aloha."
Ua hala ka wā!
Akā naʻe,ʻo nā pahuhopu a ka wahine pono'ī, ke manaʻo nui nei ka lehulehu e koi iā ia e wikiwiki. Ke nīnauʻia kekahi mau kaikamāhine he iwakālua makahiki: "ʻAe, ke mare neiʻoe i kou wā e hele ai?" He aha kaʻu e'ōlelo ai no kahi he kanakolu mau makahiki!
Ma muli o ke kuleana e alakaʻi i kahi ola kaiaulu ola a loaʻa kālā, loaʻa hou nā wāhine,ʻaʻole ia he mea e kahaha ai no ka heleʻoleʻana o ka hana o ka mālamaʻana i ko lākou ola a me ke kūlana pilikino ma ka liloʻana o nā kānaka. Ma hope o ka halaʻana o kekahi wahine no nā makahiki he nui,ʻaʻoleʻo ia iʻike i ka makemake o kona makemake e noho maleʻole, he paʻakikī ke hoʻololi koke i nā mea a pau.
Inā'ōlelo nā kaikamāhineʻaʻole lākou e makemake e mare, ua maʻa mau lākou i ka maopopoʻanaʻaʻole lākou "makemake." "ʻO wau, no ka laʻana,ʻaʻole makemake wau e mare ma kahi manawa i hāʻawiʻia, no ka mea:ʻaʻohe mea nona a inā he kanaka no ka manaʻo o ka lehulehu e hoʻokuʻi i nā wahine hou i ka hoʻonuiʻiaʻana o nā keiki, akā,ʻaʻole wau makemake e loaʻa nā keiki ma koʻu mau wāwae. .. Akā, he mea paʻakikī ke kukeʻana i kahi kanaka a holoi i nā kuki, "wahi a Katya, 21.
ʻO ka mea maʻamau,ʻo ke noi e mareʻia ke kāne. A i nā poʻe kāne a pau i mareʻia,ʻike wau, ua'ōleloʻia e kahi kanaka. ʻO ke kanaka, heʻano likeʻole, e pono iā ia no ka hoʻoholoʻana,ʻoiai he wahine e mākaukau mau i ka maleʻana . Aʻo kāna pahuhopu ke kāpae i kēia kanaka.
Ma waho o ka manaʻo o ka lehulehu, aia nā hiʻohiʻona kūpono o nā mea'ē aʻe. I ka wā i hoʻolauleʻa ai nā hoaaloha a pau i ka maleʻana, hoʻomaka ke kaikamahine e noʻonoʻo paha pahaʻoi aʻeʻo ia ma mua o ka mea'ē aʻe.
Loa aʻole paha?
ʻO ka wahine i mareʻoleʻia,ʻo ia ka mea hoʻokahi wale nō,ʻoiai he kanaka maleʻole.
Hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa e like me kou makemake e pili ana i keʻano he loiloi maʻamau kēia, e like me keʻano likeʻole o ka makuahine a me ka hūnōna kāne, akā, e like me kā lākou e'ōlelo nei,ʻo kēlā me kēia haʻalulu he kēmu.
Nui maoli nā wāhine i makaʻuʻole i ka maleʻana. Ke makaʻu nei lākou i ka loneliness, ka'ōlelo hōʻeha a ke aupuni, a me ke aloha. ʻO kēia hopohopo kekahi o nā mea nui e pahu i ka wahine i ka male.
Akāʻo ka maleʻana,ʻaʻole ia he mea hōʻoiaʻiʻo e hauʻoli aiʻoe. 'Ōlelo lākou iā ia, inā manaʻo ka wahine ua noho waleʻo ia, ua mareʻo ia. A i ka manawa eʻike ai ka wahine i kahi noho maleʻana, ua alohaʻo ia. Hōʻike kēia i ponoʻoe e paio me ka loli ma nāʻano'ē aʻe.
No ke aha lā i mare ai nā wāhine i kēia manawa i ka wā lōʻihi?
Me nā kumu he nui no ka makemakeʻana o nā wāhine e mare, ua lōʻihi nā keiki wahine i kēia wā a ua lōʻihi loa ka maleʻana.
ʻO nā kumu i kuhikuhiʻia ai e nā wāhine keʻano nui o keʻano. ʻO ka mea maʻamau ka pauʻana o ka hana a me nā pilikia hale. ʻO ke kūʻaiʻana i kāu hale pono'ī me he mea lā i kahi mamao aku a me ka ponoʻole no kahi kaikamahine. Makemake au e noho mua, loaʻa kālā. "ʻO ka pilikiaʻaʻole waleʻo ka hikiʻole iaʻu ke hana kālā ke nānā au. ʻO ka mea kokoke i kēia manawa,ʻoi aku kaʻoihana iʻoi aku i ka makahiki a me ka hapalua ma kahi hoʻokahi, aʻaʻole au i maopopo i ka maikaʻi o kaʻu kāne a me kāna hana. Eia kekahi,ʻo nā kānaka i kēia manawa, i koʻu manaʻo, e noho i nā keiki a hiki i kanakolu. 'O ka pia me nā hoaaloha a me nā mea hana ma ka computer -ʻo ka mea nui a ka hapanui o koʻu mau hoaaloha e makemake nei i nā keiki, "wahi a'Olesya, 27.
No laila, makemake nā wāhine e mare? ʻOiai, he likeʻole nā mea a pau a makemake nā mea a pau e hana i nā mea likeʻole i ke ola. Akā, ua like kaʻu hopena:ʻo ka hapanui o nā wāhine makemake maoli e mare. Akāʻaʻole lākou makemake e kākau i ka peʻalele i kā lākou pasport, akā heʻohana.