Akā, ma hope o kaʻikeʻoleʻana o nā kānaka iʻole, aiʻole he lapuwale paha. Eia naʻe, i kēia hihia, ua nīnauʻia kekahi nīnau kūpono loa: No ke aha e hikiʻole ai i ka wahine a me ke kāne ke lilo i mau hoaaloha,ʻoiai ke'ōlelo nei lākou pēlā? ʻO ka pane, ma keʻano he rula, he "ʻaʻole", akā ma kahi o kahi hohonu o kaʻuhane e manaʻoʻiʻo nā mea a pau.
Mai ka nānā wahine:
ʻO ka kumu holoʻokoʻa i loko o lākou,ʻaʻole iā mākou: ke kamaʻilio me ke kaikamahine,ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hana iā ia me he mea moe kolohe aʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke noʻonoʻo e hiki paha iā ia ke huki iā ia e moe, a inā pēlā, a laila - i kēia pō aiʻole ia lā aʻe?
Mai ke kāne manaʻo
ʻO ke kumu holoʻokoʻa i loko o lākou,ʻaʻole iā mākou:ʻaʻole hiki i nā kaikamāhine ke hoʻomaopopo i kā mākou mau pilikia; hiki iā lākou a pau ke kamaʻilio kūkā wale nō e pili ana i nā lole a me ka haʻalulu, akā,ʻaʻole makemake eʻike i kekahi mea'ē aʻe a iʻole ka mea nuiʻole.
Hoʻoholo wale nā mea a pau i hoʻokahi mea.
He nui nā kaikamāhine e manaʻoʻiʻo nei e pili ana ka pilina a me ka hoʻohemoʻana o nā kāne i kahi pahuhopu hoʻokahi: i ka manawa e hiamoe ai me kahi mea'ē aʻe. No laila, e like me ke kaikamahine maʻamau,ʻelua mau hopena: ma mua,ʻaʻole hiki i nā kānaka ke kūpaʻa i ka pilina aloha a ke aloha i ka moekolohe ma luna o ka pilina aloha,ʻo ia hoʻi, ua lawa ka lawaʻana o ko lākouʻano, no ka mālamaʻana i nā meaʻai , ka moekino a pēlā aku)ʻoi aku ka nui o ka waiwai iā lākou ma mua o ka "meaʻai faaleagaga". Hiki i nā kāne keʻeha i ka hikiʻole keʻike pono aʻike pono i ka'ōlohelohe a pau e pili ana iā lākou aʻike i ka minoʻaka maʻamau e konoʻia e hele i kahi moe.
ʻO kekahiʻano kūlana maʻamau:
Makemake ke kaikamahine e hele i kahi hoʻomaha. ʻOiai, ua hoʻomaka kokeʻo ia e kāhea aku i kona mau hoaaloha e hoʻolauna aku iā ia ma ke alanui. Eia naʻe, no ka hewa,ʻo ka poʻe kūponoʻole wale nō,ʻo ia hoʻi, nā kānaka,ʻaʻohe noa i kēia manawa. A inā hele kekahi kaikamahine i ka huakaʻi hele, a laila e hoʻomaopopoʻo ia i ka lōʻihi inā inā hele pū lāua,ʻaʻole ia he manaʻo e pau ka lā i ka hana i ka wahine. ʻOiai ma mua lākou i ka pilina aloha.
Akā,ʻaʻole i hiki ke hoʻomaopopoʻia nā kānaka wale nō. Eia naʻe, i kekahi manawa, makemake nā kaikamāhine e noʻonoʻo i ka hōʻike o kahi komo maʻalahi ma keʻano he hoʻokahi o nāʻano o ka noho hoʻomanaʻana a me ka flirting. ʻO ka pilikia o nā kaikamāhine he hikiʻole iā lākou ke kōkua i ka hakakāʻana me ka mea a lākou i makemake ai (ʻoiai, ke makemake nei mākou e kamaʻilio me kēlā poʻe - ma nā'ōlelo'ē aʻe, hikiʻole iāʻoe ke leʻaleʻa i kēlā kamaʻilio), inā paha kēia kanaka hoa maikaʻi loa. Eia naʻe, i kekahi manawa, e like me ka manaʻo o nā wāhine'ōpio. He mea nui kaʻike ma waena o ke kāne a me ke kaikamahine.
Hiki i ke kaikamahine ke maopopo i kahi kanaka?
ʻOiai,ʻo ka hapanui o nā kaikamāhine, ua mamao loa lākou i keʻano o ka hoʻolālāʻana i ka manawa, e like me ka beer (a me nā mea inuʻona) a me ka heleʻana i nā pāʻani pôhili i ka hui o nā hoaalohaʻoiaʻiʻo. Akā, hiki iāʻoe ke hōʻoiaʻaʻole kēia hōʻike i nā kaha o ka wahine! Nui nā kaikamāhine e nānā ana i nā pāʻani a pau i ka pôpeku, aʻaʻole hoʻi e hōʻole e inu, inā he "hana kūpono".
ʻO nā kaikamāhine i loko o ka hui o nā kāne he mea hōʻoia, akā, he kiko'ī. Aʻaʻole hiki ke maʻalahi kaʻoluʻolu i loko o ka hui kaiaulu. ʻAʻole,ʻaʻole ia he kānalua kekahi o nā haumāna i kou kiʻekiʻe o ka uluʻana i kaʻike. Ua'ōleloʻia,ʻaʻole hiki ke maʻalahi ka mālamaʻana i ke kamaʻilioʻana - no ka mea, inā hoʻohālikeʻoe he hoaaloha, a laila e mālamaʻiaʻoe e like me ka'ōpio, a me nā'ōpio'ōpiopio maikaʻi, i mahalo i ka huiʻana o nā wahine, i kekahi manawa e manaʻoʻole lākou e pono, e like me kā lākou e'ōlelo nei, "E hoʻohui i ka'akike." A inā makemakeʻoe i ka pilina, e ponoʻoe eʻae i ka hemahema o nā poʻe. He mea hikiʻole iāʻoe ke aʻo i nā hua'ōlelo hou, akā, e kahaha pahaʻoe i ke akamai o nā poʻe e hoʻohana nei i kēia mau'ōlelo, a me ke kiʻekiʻe o ka hoʻohanaʻana o kēia mau'ōlelo.
Ka hoʻopiʻi no ke ola a iʻole ka pilina?
Manaʻo nā kāne e hoʻomau pinepine ana nā kaikamāhine a me ka manawaʻole i ka mea. ʻAʻole makemake nā luna o ka wahine ikaika ke lohe i ka mea a ke kaikamahine i haʻi aku ai iā lākou (ʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻo ko lākou kūlana maikaʻiʻo iaʻo "nā makapō makapō makapō"!). ʻAʻole lākou makemake e hoʻolohe i ka "wining", inā hiki iāʻoe ke noho maikaʻi i ka hui o nā poʻe!
Aʻo ka "wining" he mea nui, a ma hope o kā lākou mau hōʻino, hoʻopoina nā kānaka i ka pinepine o lākou e hewa i kēia. ʻO kekahi o nā ho'ākāka kūpono no kēia,ʻo ia ka makaʻu i nā kāne, aʻo nā kaikamāhine e hoʻopili i ko lākou kūʻokoʻa, a he nui nā kānaka e makaʻu i kēia. ʻO ka pilikia nui o ka hoʻokaʻawaleʻana i ke kuokoa aloha nui, e like me ka'ōpiopio i manaʻoʻia, hiki mua mai ke kaikamahine. No laila, ke makaʻu nei nā poʻe i ka hana a ka hoaaloha e hana i nā koi like.
Epilogue (aiʻole manaʻo i ka hopena)
No laila, hiki anei i ke aloha ma waena o ke kanaka a me kahi kaikamahine? I ka nānā muaʻana, nānā paha, ua hoʻokō mākou i nā mea a pau. Malia paha ko mākou pilikia no ka nui o nā koho,ʻaʻole ma muli o kona heleʻana, e like me kā lākou maʻa mau e'ōlelo ai? Ua hōʻike mākou iā mākou iho i ke kiʻi o kahi hoaaloha o ka wahine'ē aʻe, ua uku iā ia me nā hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi loa aʻaʻole makemakeʻo ia eʻae i ka piliʻole o kēia mau hōʻike. ʻO ka paʻakikī paha hiki iā mākou ke hiki i ka manawa a pau eʻimi i kēlā kūpono kahi i huiʻia ai nā hiʻohiʻona o kā lākou aloha a me kā lākou hoaaloha? A maiʻaʻaʻoe e hoʻokomo i loko o mākou iho, ka mea e kakali nei i kēia wā, e manaʻo ana he hoaaloha maikaʻi loa ka hoaaloha maikaʻi a me ka hope?