No laila, ke manaʻo neiʻoe he pili ke aloha ma waena o ke kanaka a me kahi kaikamahine? ʻAʻohe mea kānalua i keʻano o ka pilina pili moe. He mau kaikamāhine mākou a pau, me ka hiki iāʻoe ke'ōlelo hō'āhewa i ke kīʻafe kapu i loko o ka cafe hauʻoli kokoke i ka hale. Me kahi e hiki ai iāʻoe ke hele aku e kūʻai me ke kūkākūkāʻana i ka helu o nā mea leʻaleʻa e hele mai i ka hoʻopakele a kōkua mai i ka pilikia. Uaʻike mākou i kaʻoihana aloha ma mua o hoʻokahi manawa. ʻAʻohe mea kānalua loa kēia a pau. Akā pehea e noho ai me ka pilina ma waena o ke kanaka a me kahi kaikamahine?
ʻO ka mea nui loa, me ke alohaʻole,ʻo ka pilina ka mea hikiʻole. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻike nā kānaka, aʻo ka noʻonoʻo o nā kāne he mea hikiʻole iā ia ke kamaʻilio aku me nā kaikamāhine alohaʻole. Akā, i ka hoʻomakaʻana o ka pilina, hikiʻole iāʻoe ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kekahi aloha -ʻo ia wale nō ka nānā mua, hoihoi a me ka nānāʻana,ʻo ka hua'ōlelo mua loa i noiʻia e ka mea pili. ʻO kēia ka pae mua o ka pilina, aʻekolu mauʻano ma waho: inā paha lākou e ulu a pili i ka pili aloha, aiʻole i ka pilina, aiʻole e noho i ka wā o kaʻike - a laila,ʻaʻole kekahi oʻoukou e makemake e hoʻomau i ka kamaʻilioʻana ma kēia mua aku. I kēia mea,ʻaʻohe mea hōʻino aʻano'ē - ke koho nei mākou a pau no ko mākou mau kaiapuni i nā mea maikaʻi iā mākou.
Ua'ōlelo pinepineʻia he hikiʻole i ka pilina me ke kanaka, no ka mea,ʻo ka poʻe, e like me kāu eʻike ai, "makemake hoʻokahi." ʻOiai ua hoʻonui loaʻia kēia'ōlelo. He maʻalahi ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke aloha - a he meaʻoiaʻiʻo paha heʻoiaʻiʻoʻoiaʻiʻo, akā ma ka hopena o ka heleʻana o ka moe kolohe - hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa. I kekahi manawaʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka kamaʻilioʻana me kahi kanaka ma mua o ka hoʻonohonohoʻana i nā hui kūkā. Ke hele nei kēiaʻike ma kekahiʻano kūpilikiʻi, a ke ulu nei i ka ikaika i loko o ko mākou naʻau me kēlā me kēia hua'ōlelo hou e kamaʻilioʻia e kahi hoa e hiki mai ana. A laila hele mai kekahi manaʻo hou eʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kaʻu kamaʻilioʻana me kēia kanaka i koʻu ola a pau, ma mua o ko mākou hoʻololiʻana i ko mākou mau pilina e moe ai a hoʻomaha loa. No ke aha ke kaʻawale? He mea maʻalahi loa ia: pinepine ka mea i lilo i hoaaloha he nui nāʻano maikaʻi, akā i ka manawa likeʻole,ʻaʻoleʻoe e noʻonoʻo iāʻoe iho i ke kuleana o kāna kaikamahine, no ka mea, ma kēia hana, ua kū'ēʻoleʻoe iā ia. E paʻa ana ia mau pilina ma kahi pōkole. Akāʻo ka pilina maikaʻi e hiki ke ulu i ka pilina maoli.
No laila, ke makemake nei kekahi o nā hoaaloha'ē aʻe e makemake i kahi mea'ē aʻe ma mua o ke kamaʻilio wale,ʻaʻole ia he naʻauao. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he kāneʻole ka kāne -ʻaʻole hiki iā ia keʻike i ka pili wahine i nā kaikamāhine a pau, me ka nānāʻole paha he hoaalohaʻo ia iā ia, aʻo ia paha he wahine kūpono. Pēlā nō, he wahine: inā he kanaka alohaʻo ia no ke kāne, a laila hiki iā lākou ke lilo i mau hoaaloha pono. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, inā nui kāna mau makemake no kēia kanaka,ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke'ōlelo maʻalahi me ia, hoʻokaʻawale i nā mea huna a noi i kekahi'ōlelo aʻo. Ke heluheluʻia nei ka manaʻo nui o kekahi o nā hoaaloha wahaheʻe i ka maka, akā ponoʻoe e nānā mau i kou mau maka.
ʻAʻole loa e lili wale nā hoa aloha o kekahi i kekahi, no ka mea,ʻo ka lili i waena o nā hoaaloha he mea hikiʻole ia. ʻAʻole lākou e makemake e lilo i mau mea wale nō i ka hopena o kekahi i kekahi, ua māʻona lākou i ka wahi o kahi hoaaloha nani i weheʻole i ke alo o kekahi hapalua aloha. Eia kekahi, makemake nā hoaaloha e hoaaloha me nā mea i waeʻia, iʻole e nalowale ka manawa kūpono eʻike a kamaʻilio ai i kēlā me kēia manawa.
ʻO kēiaʻano aloha,ʻo ia ka mea, e hoʻonāukiuki i ka huhū nui ma kou mau hapakū - keʻole lākou i loaʻa i kā lākou mau hoa kāne o ka wahine'ē, aʻaʻole lākou i manaʻo i keʻano o iaʻano aloha. Ponoʻoe e mākaukau no kēia, no ka mea,ʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke pakele i ka huhū. Akā, hiki i nā hoaaloha pono ke loaʻa i kahi alahele o ke kūlana, e ho'āʻo lākou e lawe i nā hoaaloha me nā mea aloha a hoʻopaʻa i nā hoaaloha ikaika ma waena o lākou.
ʻO ka pilina ma waena o kahi kanaka a me kahi kaikamahine e hana nei, a ua pihaʻo ia i nā manawaʻoluʻolu,ʻaʻole hiki ke loaʻa i nā manawa o ka pilina moe kāne. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, e hoʻokolokolo iāʻoe iho:ʻaʻole loaʻoe e paio me kekahi hoaaloha ma muli o ke kanaka e hana pinepine me nā hoaaloha. ʻAʻoleʻo ia,ʻo ia hoʻi, e hōʻike mai iāʻoe i kāna hoaaloha. Eia kekahi,ʻo ka hoa e hele mai i kou manawa e hoʻopakele ai, keʻoleʻoe e makemake i ka lima ikaika o ke kanaka, aʻaʻohe mea'ē aʻe e hiki iā ia ke kōkua.
Hiki i kahi kāne kāne ke kōkua iāʻoe i ka wā e pilikino aiʻoe i kahi pilina me kekahi kanaka. E wehewehe waleʻo ia i ke kūlana me kona, mai kahi kūpono o ke kāne, a hāʻawi iāʻoe i ka pono a me ka'ōlelo aʻo kūpono. ʻO mākou wale nō, e nā kaikamāhine, ke hilinaʻi loa nei mākou uaʻike mākou i ke kūkoko a nā kāne a i ka manawaʻoiaʻiʻo keʻano o nā mea likeʻole i nā mea a mākou i manaʻo ai. No laila, ma ia mauʻano,ʻaʻohe mea iʻoi aku ka waiwai ma mua o ka nānāʻana i ke kāne ma waho.
ʻO ka hoaaloha ma ka ho'ākākaʻaʻoleʻike i nā palena ma keʻano o ka makahiki a iʻole ka wahine. E pili ana nā hoaaloha i ka like like o nā mea e pono ai a me ka maluhia o loko, no ke aha i hōʻole kekahi poʻe e hiki ai keʻike like i nā mea like me ke kanaka me ka hoaaloha? No ke aha e loaʻa ai ka pono o ka pilina pili i ka moekolohe, a me ka piliʻole o ka pili kāne moe kāne hoʻokahi? Malia paha he mea lapuwale ke hoole i ka mea e ola ana, oiai nae o na manao a pau e pono ia.
Makemake wau e manaʻo e loaʻa iā kākou he mau hoaaloha maoli i loko o ko kākou ola, a heʻano likeʻole inā he mau kaikamāhine. ʻO ka mea nui,ʻo ia ke manaʻo i ka kākoʻoʻana o nā hoaaloha aʻikeʻoe e hiki iāʻoe ke hilinaʻi mau iā lākou.