He aha ka hoʻololi i ka makahiki ma waena o nā keiki i manaʻoʻia he mea maikaʻi loa no ko lākou uluʻana a me ka uluʻana, e ho'āʻo eʻimi i kaʻike.
Inā keʻano o ka makahiki o nā keiki mai ka makahiki hoʻokahi aʻelua makahiki, laila, i kēia hihia, aia kekahi kaumaha nui i ke olakino o ka makuahine,ʻoiaiʻo ia e hānau a hānau i nā keiki e like me kekahi ma hope aku. Ma hope o ka hānauʻana o ka lua o ke keiki, ua hoʻonāwaliwali luaʻia ke kino o ka makuahine a ua nui ka hiamoe a hoʻomaha. No laila, inā he pogodki nā keiki, he nui loa ka hoʻonaʻauao ma ka pope,ʻoiai ma nā makahiki muaʻekolu, i ka wā e mau ana nā keiki a makemake lākou i ka mālama a me ka nānā mau. No ka hānaiʻana iʻelua mau keiki, ua hala, ua paʻakikī. E hoʻomākaukau no ka mea e hoʻopilikia anaʻoe i nā kumukūʻai pālua.
Akāʻo nā keiki-pogodki he mau hoaaloha maikaʻi loa mai ka wā'ōpiopio. Kau pinepine lākou i ka papa kula papa e like me ke kula. He mau loea likeʻole lākou, he mau hoa pili. Hoʻonui lākou i ka wikiwiki ma mua o ko lākou hoa. Heʻuʻuku ko lākou mau makahiki, no laila,ʻaʻohe manaʻo kūʻokoʻa o "senior" a "junior". E maʻalahi kaʻikeʻana o ka'ōpiopio i ka honua, no ka mea, aia i loko o nā mea a pau no kaʻelemakule.
I ka makahiki 3-4 o ka makahiki o nā keiki, hiki i nā mākua ke hāʻawi i ko lākou manawa ma waena o lākou, no ka mea ua lawa ka lako o ke keiki makua, hele i ka papa hele papaʻa, he mau hoaaloha a me nā mea makemake. Hiki i ke mеlama ke hana i ka pеpе. ʻAʻole pono, akā, e hoʻopoina i ka'ōpiopio o ke keiki hānau, pono nō hoʻiʻo ia i ka mālama makua a me ke aloha. ʻO ka manawa pinepine, e uluā ana nā keiki makua i nā mākua no nā keiki liʻiliʻi, inā lākou eʻike ana ua hāʻawi nuiʻia aku kēia mea. No ka hoʻoikaikaʻana i kēia liliʻaʻole ia e pili i ka pilina ma waena o nā keiki, e wehewehe i ke keiki makua e aloha nuiʻoe iā ia, i kona wāʻuʻuku, e mālama pono ana ka makua kāne a me ka makuahine iā ia.
I kahi kaʻawale i ka makahiki 3-4, hiki i ke keiki hānau mua ke kōkua iāʻoe me ka pēpē, e hana i kāu mauʻoihana. Akā, mai haʻalele i nā keiki wale nō. I ka wā e hiki mai ana, eʻimi ana ke keiki'ōpio e nānā e like me ke kaikuaʻana i nā mea a pau, a pane hou aku ma hope ona. ʻAʻole lākou i makemake i nā poʻeʻelemakule, ho'āʻo lākou i nā ala a pau e pale aku ai i ka launaʻana me nā poʻe'ōpiopio, e hiki ai i nā paio pinepine. ʻAʻole pono i nā mākua ke haʻalele i kekahi o nā keiki, iʻole ai he lili i waena o lākou.
Ināʻoi aku kaʻokoʻa o ka makahiki o nā keiki ma mua o 4 mau makahiki,ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o nā mākua. Noho ka hapanui o nāʻohana i kēia manawa: 4-5 mau makahiki, a laila hānau i ka lua o nā keiki. I loko o kēia wā, hiki i nā mākua ke hoʻomaikaʻi i ko lākou noho olaʻana, e aʻo, e hoʻoneʻe i ke alakai kūikawā, ae hoʻoikaika i ko lākou olaʻohana. ʻO kēlāʻano likeʻole ma ka makahiki ma waena o nā keiki he mea kūpono ia no nā mākua i hānau i ke keiki i kahi wā'ōpiopio aʻike i nā pilikia he nui i ka hoʻomakaʻana o kaʻohana.
No nā keiki, he loiloi nuiʻole no ka makahiki, no ka mea, he 4 mau makahiki aʻoi aku paha ka makahiki o ke keikikāne e noʻonoʻo ai iā ia iho he keiki wale nō a loaʻa ka manaʻo o ka pope a me ka makuahine. He mea paʻakikī ke hoʻoloheʻana i kaʻoiaʻiʻo e hiki mai ana kekahi lālā o kaʻohana e pili pū aku anaʻo ia i kona mau mākua, akāʻo nā mea pāʻani a me kekahi lumi. ʻAʻole i hana mauʻia kēia. ʻO ka manawa pinepine nā keiki makua ke noi aku i ko lākou kaikuahine a kaikuaʻana paha, a hauʻoli loa lākou i kona wā e hele mai ai i ke ao nei. ʻAʻole hiki wawe ko lākou hauʻoli no kaʻikeʻanaʻaʻole hiki i kahi keiki hānau hou ke heluhelu a pāʻani me kekahi mea kākau. Ke hoʻohanaʻia nei ke keiki i ka pēpē, ua hāʻule nā mea a pau, ua kōkuaʻo ia i kona makuahine i ka mālamaʻana i ka pēpē. No nā'ōpiopio'ōpiopio,ʻo ka hapa nui o ka nui ma nā makahiki,ʻo ia me ka māhuahuaʻana o ka makua, e ulu pinepine lākou i ka pōʻino.
Ma ka'ōleloʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻoheʻokoʻa loa o nā keiki ma waena o nā keiki. Ponoʻoe e nānā i kāu mau mākua makua a loaʻa iāʻoe nā keiki wale nō i ka wā e mākaukauʻoe e aʻo iā lākou me ke aloha a me kaʻike.