E like me ka'ōlelo: "He aloha kaʻino, alohaʻoe a ...". ʻAʻole,ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona o kā mākou iʻa me nā pepeiaohao a me nā māiʻuʻu. Hiki i ke aloha ke hōʻike i nā mea kupanaha'ē aʻe, a heʻoi aku ka paʻakikī e maopopo. Ke laʻana, mamao loa mai kahi kaikamahine: he aha kāu e hana ai inā alohaʻoe i kahi hoahānau?
Ma kēlāʻano, hikiʻole ke paneʻia he pane wikiwiki a maʻalahi. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he mea kū'ēʻole nā mea a pau iāʻoe:ʻo ke kānāwai o keʻano, a me ke kaiaulu. Akā, ke ho'āʻo nei mākou e loaʻa ka pane i ka nīnau: pehea e hana ai ināʻoe e aloha nei me kahi hoahānau?
Ka haunaele i nā manaʻo
Me ka hoʻomakaʻana, ponoʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i kou mau manaʻo pono'ī. He nui nā kaikamāhine e noʻonoʻo nei he alohaʻo ia, i ka manawa maoli, keʻano o lākou mau manaʻo likeʻole, he mea paʻakikī loa e hoʻoholo. ʻO wai lā kā mākou e manaʻo nei he hoahānau? ʻOiaʻiʻo, inā he hoahānau maikaʻi loa ia, a lailaʻike mākou i ia mea,ʻo ka mea pale, kōkua,ʻo ke kanaka aloha iā mākou "no ka kumuʻole", e kākoʻo mau. No kekahi kaikunāne,ʻo mākou ka poʻe pono e palekana. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ināʻikeʻoe i kekahi hoahānau ma kou mau maka e like me kēlā, ua hoʻololiʻiaʻo ia e hāʻule i lalo o nā pae a pau o ke kāne maikaʻi. ʻO kēia kahi kahi e hoʻomaka ai ke kaikamahine e manaʻo e alohaʻo ia me kona kaikunāne. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole paha pēlā. ʻO ia, ua kānaluaʻo ia i ke aloha, akā ma keʻano'ē loa. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, aloha mākou a mahalo nui i nāʻohana, akā, heʻanoʻano'ē aʻe kēia manaʻo ma mua o ke aloha i ke kanaka. A pinepine nā kaikamāhine e hoʻopili i kēia mau manaʻo, a lailaʻaʻoleʻike i ka mea e hana ai. ʻO ka mea maʻamau kēia mau mea i nā wāhine i ulu i kahiʻohana i hoʻopauʻole,ʻo ia hoʻi, me ka makuaʻole. I kēia manawa, hoʻomaka ka kaikamahine e nānā i ka mea pale aʻike iā ia i loko o ke kaikunāne. Akā ma kekahiʻaoʻao,ʻo kona hoʻohālikeʻohana i loko o nā meaʻokoʻaʻole e hāʻawi i kekahi mea'ē aʻe i hiki ke lilo i kāne nāna, no ka mea, hiki iā ia ke hoʻohilahila, hōʻino a hōʻino. Akā, kuʻu hoahānau aloha, ka mea nāna i ulu pū aʻe,ʻaʻole loa ia e hana. ʻO ia ke kumu e hoʻomaka ai nā pilikia a me nā kaumaha. Inā maopopo iāʻoe nā mea a pau e pili ana iāʻoe, a laila e nānā hou i kāu mau manaʻo no kou kaikunāne. Hiki paha iāʻoe ke hoʻohuli i ke aloha me ka makemake e loaʻa ka palekana a me ke aloha mai kekahi mea aloha. Eia kekahi,ʻo nā kaikamāhine i ulu me ka makuaʻole, e maʻa mau ana lākou me ko lākou mau kaikunāne. Akā, i kekahi manawa wale nō lākou e noʻonoʻo wale neiʻo ke kaikunāne ke kanaka maikaʻi loa, aʻo nā mea'ē aʻe a pauʻaʻole i hiki i kēia pae. ʻO ia ka manawa e hoʻomaka ai kaʻike e hikiʻole keʻikeʻia.
ʻO ka manaʻo maoli
Akā,ʻaʻole hiki ke noʻonoʻoʻia kēlāʻano i ka hihia i ka wa iʻike mua ai ke kaikunāne a me ke kaikuaʻana me nā mākua, aʻo ka maopopoʻaʻole i loaʻa koke iā lākou nā manaʻo huhū. ʻO kēia hihia keʻano paʻakikī, no ka mea, ma kaʻikeʻole a me kaʻikeʻole i ka pilina ma ke kanaka. Nānāʻo ia i ka mea e nānā ai,ʻo ke kanaka e makemake ai. A laila, e hāpai ana ka nīnau: he aha kā mākou e hana ai? ʻO ka mea mua, ponoʻoe eʻike i ka hana a kou kaikunāne iāʻoe. Ināʻaʻole like kēia mau manaʻo, no laila,ʻaʻole loa lākou e kūkākūkāʻia. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, e like me kaʻikeʻia, ua hoʻopaʻiʻia nā pilina ma waena o nā pilina Aʻo ka māhele maʻaneʻiʻaʻole wale i loko o nā kūlana kaiaulu, akā, i loko o nā genetics, akā, ma kekahiʻaoʻao'ē aʻe, ua paʻakikī loa e koho me ka lono hou e hōʻeha ai i kaʻoihana ola. Akā ināʻaʻole like nā manaʻo,ʻo ka mea wale nō i loaʻa iāʻoe mai kaʻikeʻana,ʻo ia ka hopena o kaʻohana. I kēia hihia,ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻopauʻana i kēia mau manaʻo ma loko iho.
Akā, inā aloha ke kaikunāne iāʻoe e like me kāu hana iā ia, ponoʻoe e hoʻoholo me ka hiki iāʻoe ke pale aku i kaʻaha kanaka e hōʻoleʻole iāʻoe no ka hoʻoholoʻana. ʻOiaʻiʻo, e like me ka mea i'ōleloʻia ma luna nei, aia kekahiʻoiaʻiʻo i kā lākou mau hua'ōlelo. Akā i kekahiʻaoʻao, he manawa pinepine ke kaikunāne a me ke kaikuahine, ka mea iʻaeʻoleʻia e hui pū, e hoʻopau i kahi hoʻokahi, e like me ko lākou aloha aloha. No laila, inā alohaʻoe i kou kaikunāne, a alohaʻo ia iāʻoe, laila e'ākoakoa i ka makemake a me ka ikaika i loko o ka lima aʻaʻole e hoʻolohe i ka'ōlelo a kaʻohana. I ka hopena,ʻo kouʻohana kēia a inā lākou e aloha iāʻoe, a laila e maopopo iaʻu a'āpono. ʻAʻole ma hope, akā, e hiki mai ana. I kēia manawa, ponoʻoe i ke ahonui nui, iʻole e nalowale ke aloha o kou ola.