He aha nāʻano pono e pono ai i ke kanaka ke loaʻa i ka manawa e hoʻokau i ke poʻo - "maikaʻi"?
Wahi a psychologists,ʻo ke kanaka maikaʻi loa i kēia ao hou e pono e hoʻohui like i nā waiwai o nā kāne, i waiwai nuiʻia i nā manawa a pau, e like me ka ikaika, ke kāne, kaʻike, kahi nohona mālie, kuleana, "manaʻo hao". Akā,ʻo ke kanaka kūpono loa e akahai, akahai, mālama, -ʻo ia mauʻano iʻoi aku keʻano maʻamau no nā kaikamahine.
ʻO kaʻaoʻao no nā kumu nui he nui i ka huliʻana i ke kūpono. ʻAʻole ia wale nō i nā hiʻohiʻona nani a me nāʻano. Pono i ke kanaka keʻono maikaʻi, hiki iā ia ke kiʻi i nā lole a me nā mea komo noʻoe iho, eʻike i ka mālamaʻana iāʻoe iho. ʻO ke kūpilikiʻi, ke kāhikoʻana a me ka leʻaleʻa maikaʻi he mauʻano kūpono keu ia o ka mea maikaʻi keu. ʻO nā kapa komo hoe, nā lauoho lauoho a me ka'ōpala o nā lāʻekolu i lōʻihi loa.
ʻO ka hoʻonaʻauao, kaʻike, ka hoʻonaʻauaoʻana i ko mākou manawa, he pāʻani koʻikoʻi nō ia ma ke kiʻi o kahi kanaka e koi neiʻo ia ka "maikaʻi loa ma ke ao". ʻO kekahi mea pili i ka poʻe iʻike i keʻano e hāʻawi i ka'ōlelo aʻo nui,ʻo ke kanaka iʻike i kāna mau mea i makemake ai i ke ola aʻike i ka hopena o ia mau mea, e maʻalahi ia i keʻano he kanaka kūpono.
I ke ao hou o ka pragmatism a me ka paʻakikī paʻakikī, he mea nui ke aloha a me nā manamana i ko lākou kaumaha ma ke gula. ʻO wai ke kaikamahine i moeʻuhane i ka hana hilahila no kāna mea aloha, hoʻokahi miliona mau leloʻulaʻula a me nā meaʻulaʻula i hoʻohuiʻia? ʻO ka'āpana candy-bouquet, nā hālāwai, nā kisses, ke hele wāwae ma lalo o ka mahina a me nāʻanoʻano aloha aloha e pono ke lawelawe mau me ke kanaka maikaʻi loa i kēia ao.
ʻO ke kanaka maikaʻi loa ka pono o ka hui. Hoʻokiʻekiʻe, hoʻokipa, hoʻonanea maikaʻi, maʻalahi e kamaʻilio - eia nāʻano o ke kanaka nāna i hoʻokau i ka inoa "kūpono". Hiki iāʻoe keʻakaʻaka, a ua aneane maikaʻiʻoe no kahi kaikamahine. Makemake ka "diabolol", hiki ke hōʻoluʻoluʻia e kekahi o ka wahine maikaʻi i ka hiki ke hoʻonā i kekahi mea.
ʻO nāʻano likeʻole me ka haʻaheo, ka hoʻokaumahaʻana, e like me ka nui o nā kaikamāhine,ʻaʻole i hoʻokomoʻia i loko o ka waiwai o ke kanaka kūpono loa. ʻO ka mahalo nuiʻia, ka hiki ke kāohi i ko lākou mau manaʻo, ke kūlana haʻahaʻa i ke kamaʻilioʻana me ke kaikamahine, ma kahi o ka wā mua loa.
ʻO kēlā me kēia kaikamahine i kahi kūlana kūpono e nānā i kekahi kanaka e like me ka makuakāne o kāna mau keiki e hiki mai ana. Mai kēia māhele o ka manaʻo,ʻo ke kanaka maikaʻi loa ka mea e hoʻokumu ai, ma luna o nā mea a pau, ka hilinaʻi a me ka hilinaʻi. "Manaʻo iā ia e like me ka pā pōhaku" -ʻo ia ka moe o nā kaikamāhine. No laila,ʻo ke kanaka maikaʻi loa i kēia ao hou e pono, kūlana wiwoʻole, kūlana hanohano,ʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻoiaʻiʻo. He nui nā kaikamāhine e makemake eʻike i kā lākou hoaaloha, he kanaka hiki ke pane no kā lākou hana a hiki iā ia ke kōkua i nā mea.
Me he mea lā ma nā manaʻo i hōʻikeʻia ma luna nei he mea hiki ke hanaʻia i ke kiʻi o ke kanaka maikaʻi loa i kēia ao. Akā,ʻo ka hoʻohuiʻana i kēia mau mea me ka ikaika mai kahi'ē aʻe. A he mea pono? No kēlā me kēia kaikamahineʻo ia kāna kanaka punahele - maikaʻi. Inā makemakeʻoe, maʻalahi ka launa me nā hemahema, aʻo nā hanohano a pau he mea nui loa ia. ʻAʻohe kanaka maikaʻi. ʻO ka mea nui i loko o ke kanaka ka hiki ke aloha a mahalo i kekahi hoa, ka makemake e hoʻonui, a lailaʻaʻole loa e mamao loa ke kiʻi o ka mea maikaʻi!