Ma ka manawa like, hiki i ka pope ke haʻalele i kēlā manawa i kēia manawa i kona ola, hana, a waiho kāna kaikamahine i loko o ka mālama a kona makuahine,ʻaʻole i ka manawa hoʻokahiʻaʻole hewa a iʻole ka pono e wehewehe i ka pilina. ʻO ia, noho ... free! E haʻi mai iaʻu,ʻaʻole anei kēia ka moe a nā kānaka a pau? He mea maʻalahi ke kāne ke aloha i nā kaikamāhine'ē aʻe ma mua o nā keikikāne, no ka mea,ʻo kahi wahine wale nō kahi e loaʻa ai ke aloha me ka makaʻuʻole.
He aha nā kaikamahine o ka makua?
ʻO ka hana maʻamau i loko o kaʻohana ua māheleʻia penei: makuahine - kumu, makuakāne. Uaʻikeʻo Mom i kahi kaikamahine i wahine, e'ōlelo ana i kaʻaʻahu, ka kuke, ke hele, ka hakakā, ka hoʻomaikaʻi, ke aloha. A ināʻaʻole hiki i ka makua ke aʻo iā ia i kekahi mea, e hoʻopihapiha paha ke kaikamahine i kēia āpau. Me ka maʻa o ka makua -ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻokaniʻia e kekahi mea'ē aʻe. ʻO ka makua kāne ka mea e hāʻawi i ka manaʻo i ka aʻoʻana o ka makuahine: no ke aha he kaikamahine he wahine, no ke ahaʻo ia eʻaʻahu ai, e kuke, e aloha? I loko o ka pilina me kona makuakāne, ke aʻo nei ke kaikamahine he wahine ia, aʻo ia ke manaʻo iā ia no ka manawa mua. ʻO kaʻaeʻana o kaʻenekini wahine e waiho i kahi hōʻailona ma nā pili e pili ana me nā kāne. I ka manawa,ʻaʻole hiki i ke kaikamahine ke noʻonoʻoʻoleʻaʻole lākou i like me Papa. I ka wā e hoʻomaka aiʻo ia e aloha (ʻo ia hoʻi, mau makahiki i kaʻehā), uaʻikeʻo ia i kēia mau kānaka a me keʻano o ka pilina e pono ai lākou e kūkulu. Pono lākou, no ka mea, ināʻaʻole like ke keiki me ke kiʻi o Papa,ʻaʻole eʻike ke kaikamahine iā ia! ʻAʻoleʻo ia e lilo i mea pani no ka wahine'ē, a ināʻaʻole ko lākou pilina e hoʻomanaʻo iā ia i kona pilina me ka pope, e kapaʻiaʻo ia he naʻaupō a he pōpō.
He aha nā mea a kou makuakāne e hana ai i mea e ulu ai kāu kaikamahine e lilo i wahine hauʻoli a hauʻoli? ʻAʻohe mea kūikawā. Ua lawa ke kaikamahine i kou alo a me ke aloha,ʻaʻole ia he mea nui, i ka mea e hōʻikeʻia ai kēia aloha. Eʻike ana kāu kaikamahine iā ia.
Kūʻokoʻa i kaʻole
He mea kūpono ke'ōleloʻana,ʻo ka paʻakikī o Pāpāʻaʻoleʻo ia keʻano likeʻole o nā kaikamāhine. He aha ka meaʻino? ʻO kekahi hapa,ʻo kaʻikeʻole o ke kaikamahine i ka makua i hōʻailona no ka hoʻohālike a me kāna noiʻana,ʻaʻole ia e hoʻonāukiuki iā ia e aʻo, akā,ʻeha a hōʻino wale. Inā kūpaʻaʻoe me kāu kaikamahine, e hopohopoʻo ia iāʻoe, a he mea hikiʻole paha ke kōkua iā ia i ka piliʻana i ka wahine'ē.
ʻO kekahi hoʻokūkū a me ka makaʻu pū no ka hakakā ikaika a maʻalahi, aia ma waena o nā kāne wale nō, akā, i waena o nā wāhine. ʻO ka hapanui o ka manawa e hoʻomanaʻoʻoe, e aʻo i kekahi mea aeʻike i kou mau hiki a me kou palena. Akā, ma ka pilina o ka wahine, e like me ka makaʻu e hiki ai i ke kaikamahine ke manaʻo he ponoʻoleʻo ia i ke aloha a me ke kākoʻo, e pono iā ia e hana i ka mea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai, e nānā ai, i ke aloha. A inā paha ua lanakila kāu kaikamahine i kēia kaua a ua manaʻoʻo ia he kūpono, hiki i ke kāne ke aloha iā iaʻaʻole he mea i manaʻoʻoleʻia, akā, heʻano hōʻailona.
Ke ho'ākāka pinepineʻia nei ke anuanu o nā kāne e pili ana i kā lākou mau kaikamāhine ma kaʻike maoli i ka mea e hana ai me lākou. I kekahi manawa, puka mai kahi kanaka mai loko mai o ke kūlana, me ka hoʻoikaikaʻana i nā hana'ōpiopio o ke keiki. Ma keʻano he'ōpiopio,ʻike nui ke kaikamahine i kona makuakāne,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i makaʻu nui e kamaʻilio pū me ia. He kuleana ko kēia pilina e noho a ma muli o ka hopenaʻole e pili ana i ka pilina piliʻana o ke kaikamahine me nāʻelele o kaʻaoʻao'ē aʻe.
Nā Kūlana o Nā Pānaʻi
I loko o 2-4 mau makahiki, hoʻomaka i ke kaikamahine e maopopo he wahine ia, he likeʻole ke kāne a me ka wahine a he mau pilina koʻikoʻi ma waena o lāua. I ka manawa maʻamau, ma hope o kēiaʻikeʻana, hāʻawi ke kaikamahine i ka pope e mare iā ia ... He mea koʻikoʻi kēia, pono pono ke alakaʻi pono o ke kanaka.
ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, hōʻike ke kaikamahine iāʻoe i kēia mau mea: "He wahine wau, he kāneʻoe, aloha mākou i kekahi i kekahi, aʻo ke kāne a me ka wahine aloha e mare mau." Inā i kēlā manawa, wehewehe ka makua i kāna kaikamahine no ka mea,ʻaʻole loaʻo ia e hōʻehaʻeha no ka wahine, akā, aia kekahi mau kānaka'ē aʻe ma ka honua nei e hiki ke hoʻokokoke iā ia (aʻaʻole e hōʻole i ka makua kāne e aloha iā ia), a laila e hāʻawi akuʻo ia iā ia. "Kaʻae" no ke aloha a me ka hauʻoli i ka wā makua.
Inā haʻalele ka makua kāne i kēia mau kūkākūkā a iʻole haʻaka, hiki i ke kaikamahine ke loaʻa i kahi pilikia:ʻikeʻo ia he mau kāne'ē aʻe, akāʻaʻole maopopo inā makemakeʻo Pāpā iā lākou e aloha.
ʻAʻole pono e hāʻawiʻia kahi kākoʻo ponoʻole o ke olakino i ke kaikamahine i ka wā'ōpiopio, i ka manawa o ka hoʻomahaʻole me kona kino, ke alo, ke hele mai. I kēia manawa e manaʻo anaʻo ia mai kona makuahine i kāna mea "instrumental" kōkua (a me nā manawa e kamaʻilio ai e pili ana i kaʻaʻahu, no ke aha eʻakaʻaka ai), akā mai ka pope mai, e like me nā manawa mau,ʻo ke aloha a me ke aloha. Ua hopohopoʻo ia i nā loli e pili ana i ke kino,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i maopopo ua ulu nuiʻo ia, no laila makemakeʻo ia iāʻoe e haʻi pinepine aku iā ia i ka mahalo.