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ʻO kekahi poʻe e'ōlelo ana,ʻo ke aloha wale nō ka hopena o ka hopena ma ke kino a me ka lolo. Aʻo nā mea āpauʻole, i meleʻia i ka paukū,ʻo kēia mau lewalehe a pau i loko o ka'ōpū, ka hahauʻana o ka puʻuwai, nā hōkū i kona mau maka, ka honua e mele ana a e hula ana ...ʻo kēia ka māmā a me nā hormones. ʻO ka palupalu a mākou i manaʻo ai no kekahi kanaka, ua hoʻolālāʻia e nā homoni, e like me kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ka hauʻoli, ka hauʻoli, ke aloha. ʻO ke aloha kahi pūpū hormones, nā hopena a me nā kumuhana e hoʻohauʻoli ai iā mākou. Ua hauʻoli mākou, aia mākou i ka hiku o ka lani, aʻo kēia mau hormoni a pau, he mea waiwai. E like me ke aloha pono'ī. He mea maikaʻi anei ia e like me nā holoholona a me nā paipu hoʻowalewale? Hoʻopakele i kēia mau mea a pau? Kuʻi? E nānāʻikeʻole paha ...
Ke hoʻololi neiʻo ia i nā mele momona o nā poʻomanaʻo nui, nā moʻolelo a me nā pīhili o ke aloha -ʻo kēia mau mea wale nō he mau meaʻokoʻa wale nō e hoʻohuli i nā kānaka i nā hana hoʻonāukiuki. He pono ia? Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻo nā mea a pau a mākou i manaʻo ai he hana kupanaha a me ka makana kupanaha, ua hoʻemiʻia wale nō ia i nā hopena a me nā hoohalike, a ua like mākou me nā'āpana no nā māne e makemake wale ana e hoʻopiha i ka makemake a loaʻa i ka lāʻau.
Aia kekahi mahele o ka nānā. ʻO ke kumu o ia mea,ʻo ka aloha wale nō he mea ola o ka hoʻoponopono. Aʻo nā mea a pau a mākou eʻike nei, he mahele maʻalea ia o keʻano, he mahele e hoʻopunipuni iā mākou e hiki ai iā mākou ke ... hoʻopuka i kā mākouʻano iho. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, me ka loaʻaʻole o kēia manaʻo, nā makemake o "nā maka nani e hoʻokuʻuʻole ai iā kāua e hiamoe i ka pō", e make ana ke kanaka a me ka manaʻo. ʻO kēia a pau e hoʻoulu ai i ka hua. Hoʻolikeʻia kekahi kanaka me ka lepe, me nā hoʻomanaʻo a me nā manaʻo, nā makemake, aʻo ka mea nui o ka moe kolohe.
Aʻo ka poʻe maikaʻiʻole i ka pilikino me ke olakino a me ka biology, hiki iā lākou ke hōʻoia iāʻoe i ka holomua o ka aloha. ʻO iaʻano kūʻai pono'ī pono'ī. ʻOiai,ʻo ke aloha i kēia lā, heʻike wahaheʻe wale nō ia, he mea e makemake ai i nā mea e pono ai. ʻO nā puke kaulana loa, nā mele a me nā mele e pili ana i ke aloha. Nui nā makana i hāʻawiʻia "no ke aloha". Makemake nā kaikamāhine i ka nani, ka hana hana i ke aloha. He aha ka mea e hiki ai iā mākou ke'ōlelo e pili ana i ka meaʻala, i ka manawa e makemake ai nā kānaka eʻala e like me nā pua, hoʻolālā, lawe i kaʻike no ka hoa hana.
ʻO keʻano o ke aloha i kēia lā, ua like loa ia me kahi kūʻai nui. ʻOʻoe, ma keʻano he kanaka, keʻano o nā hiʻohiʻona a me nā hiʻohiʻona e waiwai aiʻole ponoʻole paha ma ka "mākaʻi aloha". Inā he lahilahiʻoe, nani, he mau wāwae lōʻihiʻoe a me ka lauoho nani -ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi iāʻoe eʻike i ka "hoa a me ka mea kūʻai aku" ma mua o ka mea haʻahaʻa a keu ...ʻO ka mea i manaʻoʻia he maikaʻi ka mea maikaʻi, no laila, ke manaʻo neiʻoe no ka hoa hana, e lilo i mea noi no nā 'ano o "aloha." Maanei,ʻo ka aloha pū kekahi i hoʻomaka e like me keʻano o ke kūʻai aku a me kahiʻoihana maikaʻi, kekahi mauʻano i ka hoʻololiʻana no nā mea'ē aʻe, kahiʻano o nā waiwai a me kekahi e like me ka makemake o ka mākeke.
ʻO ko mākou hopohopo, hoʻopunipuni, manaʻolana
Ma hope o ka heluheluʻana i kēia mau mea a pau,ʻoʻoe, paha, e hopu i kēia mau'ōlelo i keʻano a me ka māheleʻana o kaʻoiaʻiʻo -ʻo ia hoʻi ka sarcastic a me ka maikaʻiʻole. A noʻonoʻo e hoʻomanaʻo i kāu mau hoaaloha, i waena o lākou eʻike nei he mea hoʻohenehene kekahi. Aʻo ia, skoreevsego, eʻaeʻo ia me kekahi o kēia mau kumumanao,ʻo ke aloha iā ia, he lapuwale, hoʻopunipuni, kekahi mea ephemeral aʻaʻole pono e nānā. A noʻonoʻo e hoʻomanaʻo i ka wahine aloha. A iʻole i mareʻia. ʻO ke kanaka aloha paha i aloha i ke kanaka. Eʻakaʻaka lākou i kēlā mau'ōlelo a'ōlelo akuʻo ia wale nō ka nui o nā "hoʻopunipuni hoʻopunipuni." Ma hope o nā mea a pau, nuiʻole ka poʻe o lākou i manaʻo i kēia manaʻo. ʻO kā mākou nalowale e lilo ai mākou i mea pōʻino. No laila,ʻo ka mea i aloha a ua hōʻoleʻia, kāhea akuʻo ia i ke aloha o ka hoʻopunipuni, ka wahaheʻe. 'Ōlelo lākou iā ia, "he mea hōʻino keʻano alohaʻole". Aʻo ia nō.
ʻAʻole pono nā kānaka hauʻoli e noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ke aloha, e like me keʻano o dodarmarketing, e pili ana i nā hopena. Hana lākou e like me kā lākou eʻike ai he pono e hauʻoli i ko lākou mau manaʻo. ʻO ka poʻe aloha, hana radebya aʻaʻole lākou e manaʻo i ka manaʻo o nā poʻe'ē aʻe. ʻAʻole pono lākou e noʻonoʻo e pili ana. A ke'ōhumu nei lākou i ke aloha, he mea wahaheʻe. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, pehea lākou i manaʻo ai heʻoiaʻiʻo. A maikaʻi kēlā.
No ke aha i loaʻa ai nā manaʻo manaʻo aloha? ʻO ke kumu o ka hopena o ka hopena, kaʻeha a me ka poʻe iʻikeʻole i ko lākou aloha a me ka poʻe e hopohopo neiʻaʻole loa lākou eʻike, a ua nalowale hoʻokahi wale nō, a ua wela a hōʻinoʻia, aʻo ka poʻe iʻike i ke kaumaha a me ka nalowale ʻo kekahi poʻe'ē aʻe.
No ke aha e hana ai kēia?
Aia i ka poʻe kānaka kahi'ōlelo "aloha makapō." I kekahi manawaʻike mākou i kahi kanaka - he kanaka maikaʻi, ikaika, holomua ma hope o kahi kaikamahineʻino,ʻinoʻino, ua hoʻomanaʻo koke mākou i kēia'ōlelo. ʻIke pinepine mākou i ka "kūponoʻole" i ko mākou mau manaʻo likeʻole aʻaʻole maopopo i keʻano: pehea lā e hiki ai i kēlā poʻe'ē ke hele mai? Pehea e hiki ai i kahi kaikamahineʻoluʻolu loa ke like me ke kanaka i hele pū me ia i kēlā me kēia meʻelua? Pehea e hiki ai i nā kānaka o nāʻano likeʻole, nāʻano, a me keʻano maʻamau, ke aloha ma kahi mamao? ʻO ka manawa maʻamau, inā hoʻoholo ka maleʻana aʻaeʻole paha nā kānaka, ua hewa lākou i kekahi o nā hoa. He hewa kēia. ʻO nā pilina pili i nā kānakaʻelua, kahi hana pilikino, kahi e lawe nui ai kēlā me kēia hoa i ka hana, ke komo i ka pilina piliʻana, kaʻike i kaʻike, a pēlā aku.
Kūkulu mau kekahi wahine i kahi pilina me kekahi kanaka e pili ana i kahi kūlana like me ia. ʻO ka hoa hana ma kekahiʻano, he hōʻailona ia no mākou iho, no laila, inā mākou e kū'ē iā ia a hōʻino wale iā ia, a laila, ua hewaʻo ia e like me ia. ʻO ke aloha ka launaʻana, he hōʻailona maikaʻi ka manaʻo, kahi e hālāwai ai kēlā me kēia hoa i nā noi o kekahi. ʻO kā mākou makemake, loaʻa iā mākou. ʻAʻohe "makapō makapō", nā hoa kūponoʻole. ʻO ka manawa wale nōʻaʻole mākou i maopopo i ka waiwai o nā poʻe'ē aʻe, nā mea maikaʻi, maanei mākou e hoʻoholo ai i nā hopena. E koho ana kēlā me kēia kanaka no kona iho pono'ī. Inā mākou e hōʻino aku i kēia a ke kapa pahaʻo ia heʻano kolohe, a laila ua hewa mākou. Ināʻaʻole mākou i maopopo i kahi mea a iʻole ia e pili ana i kā mākou mau kumuʻula a me nā mea maikaʻi,ʻaʻole kēia manaʻo he meaʻino, hewaʻole, aʻaʻoleʻikeʻole paha kēia mea. ʻO ke aloha ka mea hoʻokahi i nā mea a pau aʻo ka meaʻike i ke aloha eʻike mau i nā wā kūpono no ia.