ʻO ka lōʻihi o ka pilina me ka moeʻole

Pehea e hoʻomaka ai ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine? Loaʻa ka lokomaikaʻi, ka paʻi, ka lima mua, ka ihu, ke aloha. A laila, ka wahine. Hoʻopiliʻia nā mea aloha i kekahi i kekahi. ʻO lākou,ʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole hiki ke māʻona i nā mea i loaʻa iā lākou.

Hiki ke hoʻohālikelikeʻia ka manaʻo o ke aloha me ka naʻaupō. Hoʻopiliʻo Passion i nā mea a pau ma kona ala. ʻAʻole hiki ke hoʻopoinaʻia kēia mau manawa o ka nohoʻana o kekahi mau wāhine.

ʻEhia mau makahiki e ola ana ke aloha? ʻO nā kānakaʻepekema a me nā kālaihana hoʻonaʻauao, mahalo i nā hoʻokolohua a me nā nīnaueleʻana i alakaʻiʻia, ua hōʻoiaʻiaʻo ka alohaʻoi loa ka loaʻa o kahi ola ola - ma ke awelika heʻehā makahiki.

A pehea e pili ana i ka pili wahine? ʻO keʻano maʻamau, pinepine ka mea e ulu ai nā kānaka i kekahi i kekahi ma ka moe kolohe -'alowale ka hilinaʻi i ka pae honua. Aʻo ka hoʻohaʻahaʻaʻana o ka wahine he mea liʻiliʻi a heʻuʻuku pinepine hoʻi, aʻo kekahi manawa, ua nalowale loa ka wahine mai ka pilina ma waena o ke kane a me ka wahine.

Pehea ka lōʻihi o ka pilina me ka moeʻole?

Ma keʻano pāʻokoʻa, akā i ko mākou manawa,ʻaʻohe mea he mea kānalua loa ka nele o ka moekino ma ka pilina. I loko o Iapana, maʻana, he nui nā kāne ke haʻi aku neiʻaʻole he moekolohe ma ko lāua pilina. ʻAʻole kēia mea hilahila e'ōlelo aku ma nā pāʻani a pau. ʻO ka nele o ka moeʻana ma Iapana no kekahi kanaka, heʻano maoli maoli nō, akā aia kekahi poʻe e loaʻa nei i kēia pilikia.

ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole hiki ke lōʻihi ka pilina me ka wahineʻole. He mau pilikino ka mea i pilikiaʻole no ka nele i ka moekolohe, e hoʻomau i ka noho pūʻana, e hoʻokumu i nāʻohana ikaika a hauʻoli. Eia kekahi mau hōʻailona o kēlāʻano.

Kūpono nā hoa me kekahi. ʻO ka male no lākouʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona o ke aloha a me ka hōʻailona o ke olaʻohana hauʻoli . Ua kū like ko lākou pilina. ʻIke lākou i ka hōʻikeʻana i ko lākou manaʻo i kekahi ala'ē aʻe: nā pale, mahalo i ke hoa. No kēlā mau pilina,ʻoi aku kaʻoluʻolu o ka heleʻana ma kahi o ka mālaʻai ma kahi kokoke i kekahi me kekahi, e noho ma ke ahiahi ma hope o ka'ōlelo a ke aloha paha, aiʻole e noho ana i mua o ke TV, e hoʻopili i nā lima a noho mālie.

A no laila, mai hoʻokūhāhā, no ka mea,ʻaʻohe mea likeʻole kēlā mau kāne i nā lula. Ināʻaʻole kahi kanaka e huki i kahi pilina o ke kāne - aloha a me ka hauʻoli, a laila,ʻaʻole e paʻakikī ka kūkuluʻana i nā launa lōʻihi a me ka lōʻihiʻole me ka piliʻole i ke aloha.

ʻO kekahiʻano o ka pilina, kahi i loaʻaʻole ai ka wahine. ʻO nā hoa kāne kekahi i kekahi me ka poʻe kokoke loa i ka'aʻahia. I kekahi manawa he mau keiki kā lākou, he ola kupaianaha. ʻO ka mea nui loa, he mau hoaaloha maikaʻi lākou a he mau hoa, akāʻaʻohe moekolohe ma ko lāua pilina. Ma waena o lākou he'elike - uaʻaeʻia ka wahine, akā "ma kaʻaoʻao",ʻo ia hoʻi, me nā kānaka'ē aʻe.

Ma hope o nā mea a pau, hiki i nā loina lōʻihi ke hoʻoholo me ka moeʻole, inā pau nā mea a pau i nā meaʻelua -ʻo ke kāne a me ka wahine. ʻAe ma kaʻaeʻana,ʻo ka "Family-by-family, and sex on side" agreement e lawe mai i ka hauʻoli a me keʻano o ke aloha i loko o kēia mau pilina.

ʻO ka mea pōʻino,ʻo kēiaʻano hoʻohālike o kaʻohana,ʻaʻole kahi e hiki mai ana ma ko mākou'āina, no ka mea ua hoʻomaʻamaʻaʻia nā kānaka a pau i nā mea a pau, a me ka hopena wahine, ka home, nā kamaliʻi.

ʻO ka pilina me ka wahineʻole, he pono ke noho i loko, inā eʻoluʻolu nā hoaʻelua i kēlāʻano. Akā, he aha kāu e hana ai ināʻaʻohe moekolohe ma kāu pilina no ka manawa lōʻihi, akā,ʻaʻoleʻoe i makemake loa.

Ma muli o nāʻikepili, ma muli o ka nele o ka moekolohe, nui ka nui o nā wāhine. ʻO kēia ka hopena o ka psychologically a ma ke olakino.

He aha nā hopena o kēiaʻano i loaʻa i kahi wahine? Hoʻomakaʻo ia eʻimi i kekahiʻano hana, hiki iā ia ke hoʻohuli iā ia mai nā manaʻo kaumaha. Hiki iā ia kekahi mea: ka hana, nā haʻuki, ke aloha. ʻO ka manaʻo hoʻokahi - mai haʻalele i hoʻokahi minute no ka noʻonoʻoʻana no ka nele i ka moekolohe.

Akā, ināʻaʻoleʻoe e makemake e uhaki i nā pilina i hikiʻole ai ke piliʻana i ka pili aloha, inā he mea nui kāu kāne, a laila, hoʻokahi hopena ke ho'āʻo e hoʻoholo i kēia pilikia a hoʻihoʻi i ka moe lōʻihi i ka pilina.