I ko mākou alaʻana,ʻike mākou ua keu mākou, a mai kēia manawa hoʻomaka mākou e wikiwiki. Hōʻaʻahu koke mākou, i ka inu wai inu, a holo aku i waho o ka hale, a wikiwiki e hana. Nui kaʻu hana e hana ai, no laila, e wikiwiki mākou e hana i nā mea a pau, i ka manawa o kaʻaina awakea, e wikiwiki mākou i mea e hoʻopau ai i kā mākou hana, a hoʻomaka mākou e hana, ua wikiwiki mākou e hoʻi i ka home, a ma hope o ka lā hana, ua wikiwiki mākou i ka home. Ke hoʻi mai nei mākou i ka home, ua wikiwiki mākou e hana i nā mea a pau i loko o ka hale, no laila, e hoʻomaka wikiwiki ke kakahiaka e holo wikiwiki e hana. A no ka hoʻomaha loa, ua wikiwiki mākou mai ka hānauʻana mai.
Holo wikiwiki kākou i ka uluʻana, i ka pihaʻana o nā makahikiʻeono, ke kīkilo nei mākou i ko mākou lehelehe me ka lipstick o Mom a kau i kona wāwae kiʻekiʻe. I ka makahiki heʻumikūmālima, ua hoʻomaka mākou e aʻo i ka wahine, a ma ka piha o ka makahiki he iwakālua, ua loaʻa iā mākou he keiki ma ko mākou mau lima. He nui nāʻohana i hanaʻia i kahi lele, a laila ua hanaʻia inā wale nō ke hānaiʻiaʻana o ke kāne wahine aʻaʻole makaʻu i nā kuleana. A ma hope aku, i kaʻikeʻana i kona launaʻole me ka hoa, ua holo kekahi o mākou, haʻalele i nā mea a pau, me ke keiki, a ua hoʻokumuʻia nāʻohana. ʻO ka pilikia a pau,ʻo ia ka wikiwiki e ulu. "ʻO kaʻohana i hoʻopihaʻoleʻia a me nā pilikia nui"ʻo ia ka mea e kūkāʻia ma kēiaʻatikala.
I kēia lā i ko mākou'āina,ʻo ka pilikia o kaʻohana i hoʻopihaʻoleʻia. Ma nāʻohanaʻelua, hānauʻia a hānaiʻia kekahi keiki e kekahi makua. Nui nāʻohana,ʻo wau pū me aʻu, a noʻonoʻo wau i koʻu kaliʻana i kaʻu mau keiki i ka wā e hiki mai ana. Akā,ʻaʻole wau iʻike i kaʻu kāne a me ka makuakāne o kaʻu mau keiki ma hope oʻu. Me he mea lā ua komo kēia pilikia pilikino i keʻano o ko mākou ola a lilo i mea kūpono. A ma muli o kēia pilikia he mahele o ke ola o ke ola,ʻo ia hoʻi, he pilikia kēia, malia paha e pau ka pilikia i ko kākou kaiaulu, no ka mea, he mau mea keʻakeʻa o ka maʻamau i nāʻano likeʻole o ko kākou ola kaiaulu, a ma hope iho ua hoʻokaʻawale kēia mau mea i nā kūlana hou.
Ua puni wau i nā hoaaloha a me nā hoaaloha e hānai ana i nā keiki wale nō, ua manaʻo lākouʻaʻole lākou he kāne, aʻaʻole pono kā lākou keiki i makua kāne. Ke manaʻo nei lākou he mea hanaʻole ke kāne e hoʻonā i nā aʻalolo e waiho ana ma luna o kahi moe a nānā i ka TV i ka wā e hānaiʻo ia i ke keiki me ka lima hoʻokahi aʻo ka mea e hoʻomohala ana i kahi meaʻai no ka lā awakea kokoke i ka ipu. Malia paha, he mea pono ke hoʻomakaʻana i kahiʻohana ma kahi liʻiliʻi i ka wāʻelemakule, aʻaʻole i ka 18-20 mau makahiki. Ma hope paha o ka liloʻana o ka makuaʻuʻuku, e lilo mākou i kuleana nui no ka haʻaleleʻole i kā mākou keiki pono'ī, a pale i kaʻeha i ke kanaka makua, ke hoʻomaka ka naʻau hoʻomana i ke keiki a me ka wahine i haʻalele.
ʻO koʻu hoaaloha he hoaaloha me kekahi kanaka, hele lākou, kamaʻilio, akā,ʻaʻole lākou i honi aiʻole hug. He mau hoaaloha wale nō lākou. Ua hauʻoli nuiʻo ia i kēia pili aloha, no ka mea,ʻaʻohe pili aloha ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine e like me ia,ʻo nā mea a pau e hakakā nei,ʻaʻohe kanaka palaualelo e'ōlelo pēlā. ʻO ka hoaalohaʻo ia keʻano o ke aloha, ua kamaʻilio lākou me keʻano, a ua kāhea, a kāheaʻia, ma keʻano maʻamau,ʻaʻole e hiki ke noho i kekahi. I kēlā manawa, ua manaʻo mākou i ka pilina ma waena o ke kāne a me ka wahine, a ua ho'āʻo nui mākou e hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā mākou iho me nā poʻe a mākou i makemakeʻole ai he hoaaloha, akā he mau kaikamāhine. Ua naʻaupō mākou a ua paʻakikī,ʻoiai ua'ōleloʻia mākouʻaʻole he makamaka likeʻole, ua ho'āʻo mākou e loaʻa, akā,ʻoiai, uaʻikeʻoe, ua pau ka pilina aloha, aʻo ka hopena o ka pilina e hiki koke mai ana ka wikiwiki. Malia paha ua poina iā mākou pehea e lilo ai i mau hoaaloha? ʻAʻoleʻoe eʻike i kahi mea'ē aku ma mua o kou ihu. No laila, ua pau ka launa alohaʻana i ka lā 7 o Kepakemapa.
ʻO kēia lā ka lā hānau o koʻu hoaaloha. Ua huliʻo ia i 20 makahiki. Iubile,ʻo ia hoʻi, nā hoaʻai, nā hoaaloha, nā pilina, nā makana, nā pōpō, nā pua, kaʻakaʻaka a me nā haʻalulu. ʻO ka hoʻonani a me nā manaʻo i kaheʻia i loko o ka muliwai, ma keʻano nui, heʻano leʻaleʻa aʻo iaʻo HE. A pehea lākou i hiamoe ai. Lawe mauʻia ka male ma kahi mea i manaʻoʻoleʻia. Manaʻoʻoeʻaʻole loaʻoe e hana i kēia mea me kekahi kanaka, akā aia ma laila, a ma hope o kēia mau manaʻo e hana nei ka mea e hana nei. Me keʻano o ke aloha a me ke aloha, i hui pūʻia me ka nui o ka waiʻona a me ka hookah, ua poina nā meaʻelua i ke olaʻana o ka hōʻailona. E like me keʻano o ka hapalua o kā mākou kāne, ma hope o ka pō o ke aloha ua nalowaleʻo ia. Ua ho'ōkiʻo ia i ke kāheaʻana a me ke kākauʻana, a hoʻomakaʻo ia e hōʻole. I kēlā po ua make ko lākou aloha. Hoʻomaʻi pinepine ka hoa i ka pilina, no ka hikiʻole iā lākou ke noho pū i loko o ka pilina o nā kānakaʻelua. Ma hope oʻelua mau pule,ʻike mākou ua hāpaiʻo ia. ʻAʻole i lōʻihi ka manawa, a he mea hiki ke hana, akā hōʻoleʻo ia, ua hoʻoholo e hānau. Ua hānauʻo ia i kahi kaikamahine nani, maikaʻi, a nani,ʻo ia, e like me nā lualua, e like me kona makuahine.
Kūkākūkā mākou, akā, ināʻaʻole ia e pili iā mākou. Ma o ka palaualelo a kamaʻilio, uaʻikeʻo makua i ka hāpaiʻana o kāna wahine. Ua hoʻoholoʻo ia e kamaʻilio me ia,ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu ka mea āna e makemake ai e hoʻokō ma kēia kūkāʻana, aʻo ka mea nui loa, ua hoʻohuliʻo ia i nā mea āpau a ua hewaʻo ia, a ma muli o ka hopena, ua haʻaleleʻiaʻo ia, me ka'ōleloʻanaʻaʻoleʻo ia e pili kokoke iā ia. hoʻokokoke. Makemakeʻo ia e hoʻonāukiuki iā ia ma kaʻikeʻana o kāna mea kanu i hānai i kāna hua manu. ʻAʻoleʻo ia i noi aku i kekahi mea mai iā ia, a iā ia iho a'ōlelo nō pēlā, akā i ka hoʻomakaʻana ua haʻiʻo ia iā iaʻaʻoleʻo ia e hoʻomaopopo i ka makuahine.
He aha ka mea e hoʻoikaika ai i ka poʻe e haʻalele i ka kuleana? A e hiki iā mākou ke haʻalele? Ua nīnau wau i kēia mau nīnau. ʻO ka kumu nui ka haʻalele i nā wāhine hānau, a me nā keiki hou. Ma ka hoʻokomoʻana i ka moekoloheʻaʻole e palekanaʻia, pono maoli kā mākou mau kāne e hana aiʻole hana paha i "ka hana hoʻolaha paha"? Ae, keʻae nei au me ka hewa o nā kāne a me nā wāhine no kēia, akā e lokomaikaʻi, mai haʻalele i kāu hana. ʻAʻole i haʻalele kaʻu wahine wahine i ke keiki, ua hoʻoholoʻo ia e hānau, akā, hōʻoleʻo ia eʻike i ke keiki. ʻAʻoleʻo ia i noi aku iā ia,ʻaʻoleʻo ia i haʻi aku iā ia ua hāpaiʻo ia. Ua aʻoʻo ia mai nā poʻe i kona hāpaiʻana. Aʻo ka hopena, ua hewaʻo ia, a haʻalele i ke keiki. Maʻaneʻi,ʻaʻole loa ka hewa o ka hihia no ka mea ua hunaʻo ia i kahi hāpai iā ia. Eia ka mea nui e ho'āʻo neiʻo ia e hūnā ma hope o ka hewa, e hōʻoiaʻiʻo ai i kāna hanaʻole,'ōlelo lākou, hōʻole wau i ke keiki, no ka mea heʻano nuiʻoe. ʻOiai inā pēlā,ʻaʻole hewa ka keiki. ʻAʻole i hānauʻia ke pēpē, ua hoʻomakaʻo ia e hana i loko o kona makuahine, a ua liloʻo ia i hewa ma ke kūkuluʻana i kahiʻohana i pauʻole. Ua makaukau nā kānaka e kū'ē i nā mea a pau a me nā mea a pau, ināʻaʻole lākou i hewa. E like me ka pāʻani "Mafia". ʻO ke kumu o ka pāʻani, ke kīkiʻi neiʻoe i nā mea a pau, laweʻoe i kāu mau manaʻo kānalua,'ōlelo lākou, Ua maʻa wau ma keʻano he "pēpē pēpē,"ʻoiai inā he "mafia"ʻoe.
Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he kūlana kūlana kēia, a ua maopopo ka hopena o kēia moʻolelo. I loko oʻelua mau makahiki,ʻikeʻo ia a moeʻo ia ma lalo o ko lākou puka, hānai a kaikamahine paha, eʻike i ka mea i lilo i mea maikaʻi, aiʻole aloha mua, e kamaʻilio me ia, a wehewehe i konaʻano hehena. ʻO ka nīnau wale nō, no ke aha lākou e pono ai? ʻOiai, ua hana maikaʻi lākou. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he paʻakikī i ka wā mua, a laila mākou e hoʻohana ai, a ma hope aku,ʻaʻole mākou e makemake e hoʻololi i nā mea i hoʻohanaʻia e mākou. Aia i loko o kēlā me kēia o kākou he waiho o ka conservatism. I loko oʻelua mau makahiki,ʻaʻole lākou e makemake e uhaki i ke aloha i hanaʻia ma waena o ka makuahine a me kāna kaikamahine.
No laila he aha ka hala no nā keiki i hānauʻoleʻia? No ke aha i hoʻonele kokeʻia ai lākou i kahi'ōpio'ōpiopio, aiʻole i ko mākou wā, he manawa'ōpio'ōpiopio e pili ana i ke ola me kekahi o nā mākua, aʻo ka pilina pilikino ka makuahine a me ka makua? A iʻole e pono ke kūkuluʻana i kahiʻohana a hānau i nā keiki ma mua o ka uluʻana, akā ma hope iki? Akā naʻe, ua maopopo iaʻu he mau haʻahaʻa loa ka nohoʻana o nā mākua ma mua o ka poʻe'ōpio. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, uaʻaeʻia e kaʻahahuiʻo ka mareʻana i ka wā'ōpiopio,ʻo ia hoʻi, e kali ana kahi'ōpio'ōpio i kahi keiki, a no ka wikiwiki. Hiki i ke kanaka makua ke hana i ka noʻonoʻo pono, no kaʻikeʻana i nā kuleana a pau.
Ua mare koʻu kaikunane i ka 28 ona makahiki, a me kāna wahine male 26. Ua'ōlelo aku nā mea a pau i ko lāua mareʻana. A i hea kahi wikiwiki? I kēia manawa, he kaikamahine maikaʻi kā lākou e ulu ana, a hauʻoli lākou. A ke maopopo nei au e paʻa ana kā lāua maleʻana a hiki i ke oho hina, no ka mea, ua hana pono nā meaʻelua a me kaʻike pono i kā lākou hana. A makemake wau e aʻo i nā mea a pau, mai wikiwiki! A no laila mākou e pale aku i nā pilikia a pau o kaʻohana i pauʻole. ʻAʻole e holo aku ka pōleʻa mai iāʻoe me ka manawa, e like me ke kāne'ōpio ... Ma mua o ka manawa, e lilo i meaʻono aʻono, e like me ka waina o nā makahiki o kaʻelemakule.