Peheaʻoe eʻike ai inā makemake kekahi kanaka iāʻoe?


E like me ke kūpono o ka poʻe kilokilo a me nā mea akamai, e hāʻule ke kāne a me ka wahine i ke aloha a hōʻike i ko lākou manaʻo ma nāʻano likeʻole, no ka mea, he wahine mai Venus mai, a he mau kāne mai Mars. Ma muli o ka paʻakikī iā mākou, hapa o ka mea a pau, e maopopo ai kekahi i kekahi, no ka mea he paʻakikī ka hoʻomaopopo - alohaʻoe?

ʻAʻole no nā kānaka a pau ka liloʻana o kēia nīnau i mea nui ma ke ola, akā, no nā wāhine - no nā mea a pau i hoʻokahi manawa i loko o ke ola, no ka manawa pōkole, akā,ʻo ka mālamalama me kahi'āpana e hoʻololi ai i laila. Hiki i ke ao holoʻokoʻa i kaʻokoʻa, waiho i ka mea mua wale nō ka nīnau hoʻopiʻi: peheaʻoe eʻike ai inā aloha kekahi kanaka iāʻoe? Uaʻikeʻia he lōʻihi i ka hikiʻana o kekahi wahine i ka hopena o nā manaʻo. ʻO ka hapa nui o nā kaikamāhine a Eva e noho nei me nā manaʻo,ʻaʻole eʻike i keʻano o ka heluʻana i kekahi mea a noʻonoʻo i mua. A no laila, no ka wahine paha ka mea i waeʻia ai, ma hea,ʻo ka nui o kāna wahine i loaʻa aʻo ka mea nāna e hana. ʻAʻole hiki iā ia keʻike i kekahi mea e pili ana iā ia, akā aneane hiki ke pane pinepine aku me ka nīnau maʻalahi, mai konaʻikeʻana, inā pahaʻo ia i aloha nānaʻo ia.

Ma hea kahi mea paʻakikī e pane i kēia nīnau i kahi kanaka! ʻO ka manawa pinepine,ʻaʻole nō hoʻi ka luna o ka hapalua ikaika loa e maopopo inā alohaʻo ia i ka mea i waeʻia. Manaʻo kekahi he meaʻole kēia,ʻoiai kekahi - ua maopopo nā mea a pau me kaʻole o nā nīnau,ʻo ka meaʻekolu ke hopohopo nei e komo, aʻo ka hāʻaʻole maopopo i ka pane. ʻAʻole maikaʻi a maikaʻi paha, he mea nui. ʻO ka makahiki, ke kūʻana, ka nānāʻana, ke kūlana ma ke kaiaulu -ʻo kēia mau mea he pānaʻi nui loa i keʻano a me keʻano o ke kanaka. E like me nā wāhine aʻaʻoleʻole, akā ua hoʻonohonohoʻia lākou e like me kēia - no ko lākou mau manaʻo,ʻaʻole i ka manawa ma mua aʻaʻole paha i kahiʻekolu.

Pehea pehea? Pehea eʻike ai i kaʻoiaʻiʻo, iʻole e hōʻehaʻia mai ka meaʻikeʻole,ʻaʻole e hana i nā manaʻo i hikiʻole keʻikeʻia? Pehea e hoʻoholo ai, a inā paha he mea like wale nō kēia, heʻano hoʻohaʻahaʻa o ka pilina maoli?

No ka hāʻawiʻana i'ōlelo aʻo kūpono a pololei loa,ʻaʻole hiki keʻae:ʻaʻole ia he meaʻole ke'ōlelo lākou inā makemakeʻoe e nalo i kou poʻo, e hoʻoponopono i ka pilina ma waena o ka wahine a me ke kāne. Akā naʻe,ʻo ia keʻano ponoʻole e hana ai, no lailaʻo "nānā". ʻAʻole hoʻokaniʻia nā "pāʻani," hoʻonohonoho i kahi kūlana, nā pilikia pōʻino a me nā pilikia i hanaʻia eʻole i kahi maikaʻi. Aʻaʻole i loko o ka mākaukau hana o kekahi wahine a me kona mau kōkua,ʻaʻole naʻe ma kahi kūlana "maikaʻi." ʻO kēia wale nō,ʻo ka pāʻani maikaʻiʻana paha,ʻaʻole ia e hōʻike i keʻano maoli o nā mea, no ka mea,ʻo kēlā me kēia kanaka makua, e pili ana i kaʻike, he "hoʻonohonoho" i nā hāʻina i kēia a iʻole ia kūlana, e like me ka meaʻole. A inā he kanaka akamai nō hoʻi, inā eʻike kokeʻo ia e nānāʻia ana iā ia, hiki ke hoʻopauʻia ka pilina ma hoʻokahi a me nā mea a pau. ʻAʻole nā ​​kānaka a pau i hāʻawiʻia i ka lokomaikaʻi, akā,ʻaʻohe mea i hoʻonele i ka haʻaheo a me ka manaʻo hilinaʻi.

No kaʻike inā he aloha maoli ke kanaka,ʻo ia wale nō ka mea e kōkua ai. ʻOiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻoleʻoe e noʻonoʻo i kekahi mea. He wahine no ia mea aʻo ka wahine ke manaʻo aʻike. ʻO ka mea mua, e pane pololei i ka nīnau - mahalo iāʻoe? Ua hōʻikeʻo ia i kona mau mākua,ʻoiaiʻo ia i hōʻike aku i kona mau hoa pili, nā hoahana? Ināʻo ia, inā ua maikaʻi kēia -ʻo ia hoʻi, a mahaloʻia, a hilinaʻi, a hoʻolālā i kahi pilina lōʻihi. Ināʻaʻole, a laila he mea e noʻonoʻo ai ...

Inā kūʻole kekahi kanaka e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea mua a me ka pilina me lākou, laila, no ka mea,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e waiwai nui iāʻoe aʻaʻole e hoʻonele i kou mau manaʻo. Ināʻaʻoleʻo ia e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā mea i hala, a waiho i nā nīnau pololei, pono iāʻoe e hoʻomaopopo iāʻoe.

Mai poina i nā maka he aniani o kaʻuhane, e nānā pono, e noʻonoʻo i ka pane i ka nīnau nui. He mea maikaʻi loa kaʻikeʻana o ka wahine. ʻO ka mea nui,ʻo ia ke aʻo e hilinaʻi iā ia,ʻaʻole e kamaʻilio me nā hoaaloha, nā hoaaloha a me nā hoalauna, e kōkua iā ia me kaʻike a me ka loea, a hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo i nā mea a pau iāʻoe iho.

Eia kekahi laʻana, inā e hoʻopihaʻia kahi kanaka i kahi pōkole, e hōʻailona ana iāʻoe me ka mahalo, akā "ʻaʻoleʻike" i ka wā e hāʻawi ai i ke kōkua, a iāʻoe e kamaʻilio wale iho ai, e hoʻomaha, -ʻoiai,ʻo kona aloha iāʻoe. A inā ua'ōleloʻo ia i kēlā manawa i kēia manawa "nā pilikia pili kālā" a noi mai i kekahi mea e uku, aia maanei, e like me kā lākou'ōlelo, a me ke kofeʻeleʻele: ponoʻo ia e hoʻolālā maikaʻi. A inā paha he akahai a maʻalahi kāu mea i wae ai, mālama a limaʻolu, akā i kekahi manawa wale nō,ʻaʻole ia he hōʻailona o kona aloha.

Akā, inā e ho'āʻoʻo ia e kākoʻo iāʻoe ināʻaʻoleʻoe e pololei, e hōʻoluʻolu a pale aku i ka wā e huhūʻole ai,ʻaʻole e poina i kekahi mea liʻiliʻi nui a iʻole ka lā noʻoe, ināʻaʻoleʻo ia e hoʻohenehene i kou hopohopo a me ka hoʻoili i nā pilikia o ke ola,ʻaʻole waleʻo nā makana, akā, kou nānā, ka manawa, ka mahana o kaʻuhane - a laila, he laʻaʻoe. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻo ka nīnau inā makemakeʻo ia,ʻaʻole i kū wale i kou poʻo.