ʻO wau aʻo kaʻu wale nō!
ʻO ka makuahine,ʻo ia ka mea i'ōlelo mua "he pilikia ko kāua i ke kauka", "e hele ana mākou i ke kula",ʻaʻole paha e hiki keʻae i ke keiki i kēia manawa i ke poʻo o kaʻohana, aʻoi aku no ka mea i loko o kona ola he wahine i ka'ōlelo "we". A he paʻakikī ke haʻi aku i ka mea iʻoi aku kaʻoi aku o kēia hōʻailona: he keikikāne a he wahine'ōpiopio paha e kāʻili ana mai nāʻaoʻao a pau. ʻO nā pilikia i hoʻoholoʻoleʻia i loko o ka male "makuahine", ma keʻano he kūlana, e ulu aʻe i loko o kahi helu maha ka "mother-son-daughter-in-law". Ināʻaʻole iʻike kona makuahōnōwai i ka pono o kāna keiki e ulu i ka manawa,ʻo ke kūʻokoʻa, a laila, e hālāwai nāʻohana'ōpio i nā manawa paʻakikī.
ʻO nā kamaliʻi pinepine e "hui" me kā lākou mau kāne e like me ka hana a ko lākou mau makuahine. ʻO ka manawa pinepine o ka makuahine o kāna'ōpiopio a me kāna wahine e hoʻohālike nei he wahi kūlanaʻole i loko o ka puʻuwai o ke kanaka, he mea hikiʻole ke hiki. ʻAe,ʻo ka hana a ka makuahōnōwai wahine he hewa ia, akā,ʻo ka pilina o ke kāne me kona makuahine kā lākou hana. ʻO ka pilina o ke kāne me ka wahine. Hiki iāʻoe ke aʻo mai kāu hoa kāne pehea e hōʻoluʻolu ai i nāʻano o kona makuahine aiʻole e ho'āʻo e ho'ēmi i keʻano o ke kūkākūkāʻekolu me ka palena iki. Akā pono kākou e kūpono i kaʻoiaʻiʻo:ʻaʻole hiki iā kākou ke "kipaku loa" i ka makuahine o ke kāne mai ke olaʻana o kaʻohana.
ʻO Udocher aʻo wau kahi e aʻo
ʻO ka mea iʻikeʻoleʻia i loko o ka pilikino o ka pilina ma waena o ka makuahōnōwai a me ka hūnōna wahine e alakaʻi i waho iho, e maopopo. Akā, ua hoʻololiʻia, aʻo ka maikaʻi o ka makuahōnōwai wahine e hoʻopilikia i nā pilikia.
Ke'ōlelo nei mākou iāʻoe e wehewehe pono i kou makuahōnōwai wahine eʻikeʻoe i kona mālamaʻana e like me ka hilinaʻiʻole i kou mau mākaukau,ʻikeʻoe i kāna mau'ōlelo makaʻu no kāu keiki a me ke kāheaʻana e haʻalele i kou mau mākua pono'ī. E loheʻoiaʻiʻoʻo ia i ka wehewehe kūpono, e hoʻolohe iā ia. Pono pono e ho'āʻo e loaʻa i kahi kuʻikahi, iʻike aiʻoe i ka mea nui -ʻo kēlā me kēia ma kona kuleana. Ma mua o ka kūkāʻana, he mea maikaʻi ke hanaʻana ma ka hoʻoponoponoʻana i nā "I-'ōlelo" a me nāʻano kū'ē'ē'ē aʻe.
ʻAʻole au i hele i ka aloaliʻi
I ka moʻolelo kahiko o ka kiʻiʻoniʻoni, he makua kāne maikaʻi ke aliʻi pīhoihoi, aʻaʻoleʻo Mamma ma laila. Uaʻae maikaʻiʻo Dad i ka mea i kohoʻia e kāna keiki:ʻaʻohe mea lepo, akā maikaʻi, mele a hula, hiki iā ia ke hoʻololi i kahi puka ma kona kapa. A i kēia meaʻaʻole he mea kupaianaha -ʻo ke kanaka nui keʻano nui aku i ko lākou mau hūnōna wahine.
He mea maʻalahi ke noʻonoʻoʻaʻoleʻaʻole ma muli o kekahi mea e hakakā ai kahi hūnōna wahine a me kahi makuahōnōwai wahine. Pili nā wāhineʻelua (ʻoiai heʻano likeʻole) hoʻokahi kanaka -ʻo ka lepo no kaʻoihana kaʻoi loa. ʻOi ma ko mākou manawa, i ka nui o nāʻohana "hoʻokahi-keiki". ʻO ke keiki wale kahi kahi e hoʻohana ai i nā hana a pau, ka manaʻo nui o nā manaʻo a me nā moeʻuhane. A i kēia manawa ua mareʻia kēia keiki ...ʻO ka hope loaʻo kāna mea i waeʻia heʻanoʻuʻuku iho i ke kiʻi i paʻiʻia e kona makuahine. ʻO ka huhū nui no kēia mea,ʻaʻole ia he mea kūpono loa; i kēlā me kēiaʻano, eʻikeʻia pahaʻoe he makuahōnōwai wahine keʻano lahilahi a piha paha, keʻano kānalua aʻaʻole paha, ma keʻano'ē aʻe,ʻikeʻole, a pēlā aku nō. Hiki ke pale iā ka liona o ka pilikia inā hoʻomakaʻoe e noho kaʻawale mai nā mākua o kāna kāne. A ma ke kauaʻana i nā mea kaua i koe o ke ao holoʻokoʻa - ka mālie, ka maʻalahi a me keʻano haʻaka.
Mai poina e pili ana i ka physiology, e wehewehe nui ana. ʻO ka hapanui o nā wāhine he makuahōnōwai wahine ma kahi o 50 mau makahiki -ʻo ia ka manawa o nā hoʻololi o ka hormonal honua i ke kino. No laila ka huhū wikiwiki, a me ka huhū nui, a me nā loli pinepine. E hoʻomanaʻo i kēia me ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa.
ʻO ka hana o ka'ikekino o nā pilina ma waena o ka makuahine a me ka hūnōna wahine e hōʻike mai i ka loaʻaʻana o ka makuahine makuaʻole i nā wāhine me ka hoʻomanaʻo maikaʻi: hoʻomanaʻo pono lākou i ko lākou'ōpio, nā makahiki mua o ka maleʻana a me ka pilina me ka makua kāne o kā lāua kāne. ʻAʻole kēia eʻae i ka liloʻana i luna hoʻokolokolo kūikawā, hikiʻole keʻaeʻia. Inā loaʻa iāʻoe kahi makuahōnōwai wahine me kahi noʻonoʻo pokole, e ho'āʻo e holo iki ma mua, i ka wā e hiki mai ana, ae hoʻomaopopo mai ia mai laila. E noʻonoʻo i kāu keiki i male ... a me kāna wahine -ʻaʻohe, he aha kāu i noʻonoʻo ai iā ia!
E kūkākūkā i kou manaʻo me kāu hoa. Hiki iāʻoe ke noi iā ia e lilo i mea pale ma waena oʻolua no kekahi manawa, e hele i kāna mau mea iʻike ai a me ka makaʻu (a me nā manaʻo) ma kekahiʻaoʻao. Hiki iāʻoe ke nīnau iā ia e pili ana i kou makuahine a ho'āʻo e loaʻa iā ia / e hana i kahi kuleana'āina like me ia. ʻO kaʻoihana lanakila-win no ka hoʻonuiʻana i ka pilinaʻana,ʻo ia ke aʻo e pili ana i ka moʻaukala o kaʻohana, e pili ana i kēlā mau "kuʻuna". Mai hana wale i nā hana e like me ka hahiʻana i kou haʻaheo -ʻaʻole, he mea maʻamau wale nō ia. Pono kekahi e hana.
Mākua kōkua
ʻO kahi makuahine, kahi makuahōnōwai, he makuahine a me ke kumu aʻo ... He mau kānana koho. Akāʻo ka meaʻoi aku ka paʻakikī - he makuahonowai wahine: he keiki e huhū mau ana, hoʻomahaʻole, makemake i ka mālamaʻole. ʻAʻole hiki keʻike i kona pilina me ia - ua paʻa loa kona manaʻoʻiʻo no nā'ōlelo hoʻopiʻi "makehal", e like me "nā keiki" a me "nā maʻi makuaʻole."