ʻO ka lōʻihi,ʻaʻole kahi mamao loa kēia hopena. I kēia mau lā, nui nāʻohana i pauʻole, kahi e hānai ai ka makuahine ma "haʻaheo haʻahaʻa" i kāna keiki.
He mea kaumaha ia i nā manawa he nui nā wāhine e noho i kahi "haʻaheo." I kekahi manawa pinepine ka wahine e ho'āʻo e noho hoʻokahi, hoʻomakaʻo ia e makaʻu i kahi pilina hou. ʻO nā kumu o kēia makaʻu e hiki ke hoʻololi.
Ua lōʻihi ka lōʻihi o nā hoʻokolohua e hōʻike i ka pinepine o kā mākou hana, pāʻani, i ko mākou'ōpiopio. ʻAʻole ia he pōpilikia,ʻo ka hopohopo o ka pilina ma waena o nā wāhine he nui ma muli o ko lākou mauʻike'ōpio. Inā i ulu kahi wahine i kahiʻohana hauʻoli, kahi i aloha ai nā mākua iā lāua iho, aʻikeʻole nāʻuhane i kā lākou mau keiki, a laila makemake ka wahine e hana i nā pilina like. ʻAʻoleʻo ia e wikiwiki, e like me ka wili a me ke poʻo, i loko o ka apo o ke kanaka,ʻoiaiʻo ia he kanaka aloha. He mea kupaianaha i ka makaʻu i ka wahine i loko o ka pilina me kāna mea aloha a aloha? He mea maʻalahi. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻoʻaʻole ia e kūpono i nā kaulike i kauʻia. ʻO ka mea mua,ʻoiaiʻo kaʻoiaʻiʻoʻoiaʻiʻo, he wahine mai kaʻohanaʻoliʻoli, e noʻonoʻoʻo ia i kahi mea i alohaʻia ma lalo o ka microscope ma o ke kino o ka hana a nā mākua, e ho'āʻo i nā palena o kona makuakāne. A inā ponoʻoleʻo ia iā lākou,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e ho'āʻo e kūkulu i kahi pilina me ia.
A inā ma kahiʻohana kahi iʻoluʻoluʻole ai koʻu makuakāne i ka makuakāne, pehea lā e hopohopo ai nā wāhine i ka pilina i ka wā e hālāwai ai lāua me kā lāua kanaka aloha? Wahi a nā kālaiʻike hoʻonaʻauao i kēiaʻano, ua maopopo ka wahineʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke loaʻa kaʻohana hauʻoli. ʻAʻoleʻo ia i noʻonoʻo i nā pilina e hiki ai keʻoluʻolu i nā hoaʻelua, hiki iā lākou ke maʻalahi a me kaʻoluʻolu, akā,ʻikeʻiaʻo ia he mea kaumaha loa e huki aiʻo ia. Aʻo ia ke kumu e makemake aiʻo ia e noho hoʻokahi, akā,ʻaʻole e hoʻoluhiʻia.
Inā hahai mākou i kēia loiloi, a hoʻokahi wale nōʻaoʻao o ka wahine i loko o ka pilina - i nā wāwae o nā mākua. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ua hewa loa nā mea a pau. No ka mea,ʻaʻohe kanaka likeʻole a maikaʻi loa, no lailaʻaʻohe mea like, e hana hou ana ma nā mea nuiʻole, a me nā pilina maikaʻi,ʻike ponoʻia nā mea e nā kānaka psychologists. Pono mākou e hoʻomanaʻo e kūkulu mākou i ko mākou mau pilina ma o mākou wale nō, ma ka hana nui i nā lā a pau. A laila, i loko o kahi pilina me kou pilikino aloha, hiki iāʻoe ke hoʻokō i ka mea āu e makemake nui ai.
ʻO ka mea nui,ʻo kaʻike i ka mea āu e makemake ai i kēia mau pilina. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, inā e nīnauʻoe i kekahi wahine i kēia nīnau, e hoʻomakaʻo ia e hoʻopaʻa inoa i nāʻano pono o ke kāne, pehea e hana ai i kaʻohana. Me ia i meleʻia ai i hoʻokahi mele o Soviet manawa: "Ke inuʻole nei wau,ʻaʻole au i puhi, a hāʻawi mau i nā pua." A ināʻaʻoleʻo ia i maopopo he mea e like ana, makemakeʻo ia e noho hoʻokahi. ʻO ka pilikia nui kahi e hopohopo ai nā wāhine i kahi pilina hou,'ōlelo nā mea psychologists,ʻo ia ke kohoʻiaʻana o ke kanaka i mea hou i loko o kahi hale kūʻai no kaʻoluʻolu iā ia iho. ʻAi waleʻia nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo. Me kēiaʻano,ʻaʻole kahi wahine i mākaukau e hāʻawi i ka pilina.
ʻAʻole ia he pilikino e'ōlelo ana nā kānakaʻepekema'ōlelo iāʻoe e aʻo eʻae i ke ola a me nā mea'ē aʻe e like me lākou. ʻO kēiaʻano ola ke kōkua i nā manawa he nui. Aʻo ka mea mua, hoʻonui ia i nā kūpono e kūkulu i kahi pilina pilina me kāu kanaka.
Loaʻa kahi pahu hou ma ka huliʻana i kahi pilina hou. ʻAʻole i kūʻia kekahi wahine ma luna ona. Ka palekana, a, ma muli o ia hopena, he haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa. E hoʻomanaʻo i ka nui o nā manawa āu i lohe ai i nā hoa, nā hoa hana, nā meaʻike wale i nā wāhine i ka hua'ōlelo e like me: "Akā, i ka mea e pono ai iaʻu, hiki anei iaʻu ke leʻaleʻa i ka mea hoʻokahi?" E hiki iā 99% ke maopopo he mau wāhine hoʻokahi kēia, ʻO ka poʻe e huki i kā lākou pili me kāna kāne me he kaumaha kaumaha lā,ʻaʻole hiki ke haʻalele. Ua halaʻoe - koe wale koe, akā hoʻokahi mea hopohopo. A hoʻomaka nā pili hou i ka makaʻu: kahi eʻike ai i ke kanaka o kou mau moeʻuhane,ʻo wai ka mea e pono ai iaʻu?
Uaʻike lōʻihiʻia ke ala i waho o kēia kūlana. ʻAʻole ia i'ōlelo maikaʻiʻia iā mākou wale nō e ka mea loio i ka loiloiʻole - aloha iāʻoe iho, e hoʻomaka i ka mahalo a me ke mahalo iāʻoe iho. ʻOʻoe iho, a ma luna o nā mea a pau,ʻoʻoe iho. Ke nānā neiʻoe, aʻo nā mea'ē aʻe ma hope ou e kauʻia, e hoʻomaka lākou e aloha, mahalo a mahalo iāʻoe. A e ulu ana ka pilina.