E hāʻawi i ke keiki e hānai i nā kūpuna

Mai ka wā kahiko,ʻo ka nui o nā kupuna wahine i komo i ka hoʻonaʻauaoʻana i nā keiki'ōpio. Pono nā mākua e hana,ʻo kahi mea e like me ka haʻaleleʻana i ka makuahine i hōʻike kokeʻia, no ka makehewa o nā mākua a haʻalele i kā lākou mau keiki i ka hanauna kahiko. Akā, pehea e hana ai? Inā e hāʻawiʻia ke keiki i kāna mau kūpuna a iʻole e mōhai i kānaʻoihana, akā, e hāʻawi mau i ka manawa a pau i ka manawa hānai makuahine i kāna pēpē? Manaʻo wauʻaʻole nā ​​mākua i nīnau iā lākou iho i kēia nīnau.

I kēia manawa, ua loli nā mea he nui, akā, ua ola ke kuʻuna o ka hāʻawiʻana i nā keiki i nā kūpuna i nāʻohana he nui, a no ka hopohopo hoʻi. Ma ka liʻiliʻi loa i ka moku'āina i nā makuahine, hiki hiki ke kūʻai i nāʻepekema, akā pehea pehea e ola ai inā he hana haʻawina ukuʻole ka wahine? No ka hikiʻole i hoʻokahi sala uku ke hānai iʻekolu kānaka, a ma hope o nā mea a pau, heʻelua aʻekolu mau keiki a kekahi, ināʻaʻoleʻoi aku. ʻO ia ke kau i kahi pilikia e hāʻawi i ke keiki i kahi māla aiʻole nā ​​mākua i haʻalele.
Akā naʻe,ʻaʻole i ulu kēiaʻano i nā mea a pau, aia nāʻohana i hiki i ke kāne ke hāʻawi i kaʻohana a pau no ka manawa o ka haʻaleleʻana i ka makuahine. Akāʻo kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ua haʻalele kekahi poʻe i nā'ōpū o ke hānaiʻana i kahi keiki ma nā lima o ke kupunawahine, no ko lākou makemakeʻole e lilo i hale hana i loko o ka hale-Dunka Kulakov-ka makuahine o nā keikiʻehiku. A eia kekahi pūʻuluʻekolu - ke hānai lākou i kā lākou mau keiki pono'ī,ʻaʻole eʻae i nā kūpuna eʻae i kēia hana hana. ʻO ka hāʻina hea ka mea maikaʻi loa i kāu pēpē, hiki i kēlā me kēia makua ke koho iā ia iho, e nānā ana i ka pēpē pono'ī. No laila, e hoʻolālā i nā pono a me nā kūlana o nā kūlanaʻekolu.
I ka manawa e hana koke ai i kahi hoʻolaha, kokoke wau i ka koho inā hānai nā mākua i kā lākou mau keiki pono'ī, akā, aia kekahi mau mea'ē aʻe. Pehea kou manaʻo he mea nui loa ia no ke uluʻana o ke keiki i ka wā liʻiliʻi? ʻOiai, kona kūlana hoʻomaha a me ka manaʻo palekana. ʻAʻole i hana houʻia nā hana hoʻolālā,ʻo ka'ōpū i loko o kahi kanaka iki. ʻO nā pilikia a me nā psychoses ke kumu o ko lākou wā'ōpiopio,ʻo ia keʻano o ke kumu, i ka pono a me ka hilinaʻi nui, e hilinaʻiʻia ka ola o kā mākou keiki. He makua aloha aʻo ia wale nō e hiki iā ia ke hāʻawi i ke keiki i ka mahanahana a me ke aloha i pono iā ia i kēia mau makahiki. Akā, aia kekahi mauʻohanaʻilihune e inu ana i nā makuahine a me nāʻano'ē aʻe i mālamaʻole i ka honua i loko a me ka hoʻouluʻana i kā lākou keiki,ʻo ia hoʻi, inā heʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ke kupunawahine, eʻoi aku ka maikaʻi a me kaʻoluʻolu o ka pēpē hanauna, ma mua o nā mākua i kūponoʻole.
Inā hikiʻole i kaʻohana ke kālā,ʻo ka mea maikaʻi loa ke kaliʻia no ka liloʻana o ke keiki i mea kūʻokoʻa a kūʻokoʻa paha (hiki ke hele ma luna o ka ipuhao,ʻai iā ia iho, hiki iā ia ke haʻi aku i kāna mea e pono ai), a laila me ka hoʻomalu mālie e hāʻawi iā ia i ke kula haumana. ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, e ulu ana nā keiki a pau, e loaʻa i kekahi i kēia manawa ma mua,ʻo kekahi ma hope aku,ʻo ka maʻamau maʻamau i kahi 1.5-2 makahiki.

Akā, no ka manaʻo iʻaeʻia e like me ka manaʻoʻana o kahi wahine wahine wahine e laleʻa me ka manawa a lilo i meaʻoluʻoluʻole i kāna kāne, he mea lapuwale kēia. E nā wāhine aloha, maopopo, nā mea a pau e pili ana iāʻoe. Ināʻaʻoleʻoe e hoʻomalamalama i kaʻike a me kaʻike ma mua o ka maleʻana, e hoʻomaka e hoʻoulu i kēia manawa,ʻaʻohe ala e hana ai, pono, ināʻoe iʻike i nāʻike a me nāʻano hoihoi a pau, e manaʻoʻiʻo mai iaʻu,ʻaʻole lākou e haʻalele iāʻoe ma kahi āpau.
ʻO nā makuahine, nā mākua kāne, he maikaʻi, akā,ʻo kā kāua mau keiki kēia aʻaʻole lākou e mālama i kā lākou mau kuleana iā lākou. Ua hānai lāua i kā lākou mau keiki,ʻo lākou hoʻi, ua haʻalele, makemake e hopu i ko lākou hanu no ka liʻiliʻi o ke ola, e ola i nā makahiki hope loa no lākou iho a no ko lākou leʻaleʻa. Eia kekahi, ua hōʻoia mua nā kauka i nā keiki e noho pū ana me ka hanauna kahiko iʻoi aku ka maʻi. Me nā makahiki,ʻo ia mauʻano o keʻano o ka nānāʻana e huli i ka hopohopo, ka waiwaiʻole i ka hilahilaʻole, ka nele i ka waiwai pilikino - i ka hūnāʻana, etc. Eia ke kumu no ka hoʻonuiʻana i ka nānā, no keʻano o ka mea nānā aku, no laila e ulu mālie ai ke keiki a hoʻomaopopo i nā mea nui. ʻO ke pani mau loa, no laila ua mahana, no laila, ke kuʻi a ke kani o ke keiki, mai hele i laila,ʻaʻole e hana, maiʻai, a pēlā aku. i ka pauʻole.

Ua akamai o nā kūpuna ma mua o kā mākou, a ua loaʻa iā lākou kaʻike hou ma ke ola, no laila, manaʻo lākou eʻike wale lākou i ka hoʻonaʻauaoʻana i ka hanauna'ōpio, a i kekahi manawa e hoʻopoina lākouʻaʻole he hoʻokahi manawa. ʻOiai,ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hana me kaʻole o kā lākou'ōlelo aʻo, akā, e like me kā lākou e'ōlelo nei, he maikaʻi ka puna maikaʻi no kaʻaina awakea!
No laila, inā hana kāu keiki i ka hapa nui o kona manawa me nā kūpuna, e ho'āʻo e loaʻa i kahi hoʻoholo i loko o kāu pilina o hikiʻole iāʻoe ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma hope aku i mua o ke pēpē,ʻo kaʻoi aʻe o kānaʻoihana.