Akā, pehea e mālama ai i ka lokahi ma nā pilina mare,ʻaʻoleʻo ia e hāʻawi mai iā mākou, no laila e ho'āʻo e hoʻomaopopo iā mākou iho.
Kū'ē mākou i ka manawa hoʻokahi e nānā mākou i nā kūlana o ka maluhia wale nō no nā mākua ma kahi eʻike ai nā hoaʻelua i ke aloha i kekahi i kekahi.
ʻO ka mareʻana a me ka mareʻana,ʻaʻole hiki ke maʻalahi, no ka kāne mare a me ka wahine mare,ʻoiai inā he aloha a me ka hilinaʻi piha ma waena o nā wāhine. ʻO ke ola, ka hana, ka manawa, nā mea a pau e nānā mau iā lākou no ka ikaika. Akā, uaʻike mākou a pau aia he mau kāne i noho i ka maluhia a me ka lokahi pili aloha no nā makahiki he nui o ka nohoʻana o ka wahine.
A i ka nui o nā kumu, ke kumu o kēia mau pilina pili (ma kaʻole o ke aloha) heʻano aloha i kekahi i kekahi me he kanaka lā. ʻAʻole pono kēia e hilinaʻi i ka nohona pili kanaka, ka waiwai kālā a me nāʻano maikaʻi'ē aʻe. Na ke kane e mahalo i kana wahine i wahine mare, a mahalo ka wahine a kekahi wahine wahine i kana kane, he mea ike akamai. I kēia manawa wale nō e hiki ke hoʻohuiʻia ma waena o nā wāhine.
ʻO kekahi kumu nui o kaʻoluʻolu,ʻo ia nā mea e pili ai i ka pilina, a me nā helu kahi e hoʻopiliʻia ai nā pono o nā kāne. E hoʻomaopopo i kēlā mau wahi kahi i hoʻohuli ai nā mea e pono ai,ʻaʻole ia he kumu kihi; ʻAʻole pono nā manaʻo likeʻole o nā wāhine i ke kumu o ka hōʻeuʻeu ikaika o kekahi i kekahi. ʻO nā loina maʻamau e like me ka hoʻomaopopoʻia e lawelawe i ka hoʻohuiʻana i kahi mau hoa (ʻo ke aloha a me ka wahine ma kēia hihia,ʻaʻole kūpono, no ka wā pōkole e hui pūʻia), akā he mau mea e hāʻawi i ka poʻe i ka manawa e hana ai i kekahi mea, me kaʻole o ka wahine. No ka mea ma muli o ka poʻe kokoke loa i kekahi manawa ua luhi lākou. ʻAʻole nō hoʻi he kuleana koʻikoʻi, no ka lōkahi o ka loiloi lōʻihi,ʻo ia ka hiki ke kala aku.
Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻoiai nā kānaka, ma luna o nā makahiki lōʻihi o ka pilina o ka pilina, e hoʻonui lākou i nā pilikia nui. He mea maʻalahiʻole kaʻikeʻana i ka hoʻomakaʻana o nā pilina mare, akā hiki iā ia ke pepehi i kekahi manaʻo a me ke alohaʻole ma hope o nā makahiki he nui. Aʻo ka mea nui aku,ʻo ia ka kalaʻana o nā kuhi hewa liʻiliʻi o kekahi i kekahi. Eia kekahi laʻana, ke hoʻopoina nei ke kāne i ka hoʻopuniʻana i ka nihohiho, a makemake ka wahine e nānā i kēlā mau papahana i makemakeʻole ai kāna kāne.
Ma waho aʻe o nā mea a pau i luna nei, hiki iāʻoe ke hōʻolahi i ka lōkahi i ka piliʻana i ka mare me nā manaʻo likeʻole ma nā kihi o ke ola male.
Ma muli o nā mea e like me nā keiki a me kaʻohana (ka makemake e loaʻa iā lākou, ehia mau mea e loaʻa iā lākou, ola me ko lākou mau mākua.), Pehea ka hana a me ka hana (inā pono ka wahine e hana, he mea nui kaʻoihana o nā keiki aʻoihana paha, a pēlā aku), no ka home a me ke kālā e hāʻawi i nā kālā i loaʻa i kaʻohana, ka mea e kuke ai, a pēlā aku). No kēia mau nīnau a pau, he pono ke nānā aku nā hoa kāne i ka manaʻo like, akā,ʻaʻole hiki ke'ōlelo i kahi kūlike.
Ke hōʻike nei nā mea a pau e hōʻike ana i ke kumu nui no ka lōkahi o ka pilina o ke kāne, he hana nui ia e mālama ai i ka kaulike o ka maluhia o kaʻohana ma ke kaulike. Ināʻike nā kāneʻelua i kēia a me ka ho'āʻo e mālama i kēia palekana, a laila, hiki i kēia mareʻana ke lilo i kekahi o ka poʻe hauʻoli kahi i noho ai nā kāne ma ke aloha no nā makahiki he nui. Ma keʻano maʻamau, nui ka poʻe e moeʻuhane nei no ia mau pilina.
Eia paha, keʻano o ka maluhia, akā makemake wau e hoʻohui hou aʻe. Akā naʻe,ʻaʻole i kahi kahi e hoʻomanaʻo ai i keʻano nui a me ka mea nui loa o ke kūlike ma nā pilina mare,ʻo ia nō ke aloha. E like me kā lākou e'ōlelo nei, me kaʻole o kēlā me kēia wahi. Aʻo nā hana'ē aʻe a pau e hana wale nō i mua o ke aloha i waena o nā kāne.